you have a crush... you dont know if that "person" feels the same way...<< i hate it when that happenes... what do you do?

AND&#33; your crush&#39;s Ex.. is starting to crush on YOUR crush again :angry: ... what do you do?

T__T
so complex
i dont think so..i&#39;ve never had a crush on anyone.
well i ALMOST had but i told the guy i hated him and ran a way&#33;
YAY COWARDNESS&#33;

lol, i know what u feel, i got a crush too. she is beatyful, in spirit and in body, :rolleyes: but every time i speak to her or i see her, i feel like my heart is being torn apart because i know ill never be good enough, nice enough or good lookin enough for er. but i am content that she does not think too lowly of me, and i am very good at hyding my emotions, so i dont look stupid when im near her like in some movies or stuff. (u know the guy who has the crush tries to speak to the girl and he looks like an idiot when trying to say something like hello...)

well cheers

:( :unsure:

first off the situation with the Ex depends oon the person, some people allways seem to go back to them, i realy dont like it, seen to many people go back to get hurt again.

you just gotta get more a feelin for them, hang around with them see if they like you and wait till time is right.

what if the crush says like the ex is cool...and they say like "we&#39;ll just see what happens.."

what if the Ex is one of your best friends?

I seriously wouldn&#39;t worry about it. If they want to get back together, then kudos for them.

Its only a crush, people get over crushes easily. Find someone who you&#39;re happy with and stick with them. The thing about relationships is that they can fail if they&#39;re based purely on emotions. You need to have some sort of trust or friendship behind it all.

If that scinario was happening to me I&#39;d just say "oh well" and find someone else I can pair up with. Someone who I can see myself with for a long time.

I had a crush, and I went after him.
Turns out he liked me too&#33; XD We&#39;ve been going out for a couple of months now.

well if you don&#39;t know if that guy likes you, i once heard some advice that you should go to a fancy restaurant with them and eat like half of your plate of food and offer them the rest. Apparently, if they like you they eat off the plate?

but then there&#39;s always reading body language and flirtation gestures but that doesnt always work.

if it&#39;s your best friend&#39;s ex then i&#39;d like talk to her to see if it&#39;s just a crush. If she still likes the guy stay clear because she will get proper mad at you. If not then go for it. Maybe you could try kare kano stlye and sort of "trip" and bump into his chest :heh: into his arms? (what? it&#39;s just a suggestion&#33; :heh: )

ai yai yai.. love can be so onfusing at times...

but what if you actually want the rest of your food? :D :P

Originally posted by an&#045;kun@Feb 21 2005, 05:05 PM
Maybe you could try kare kano stlye and sort of "trip" and bump into his chest :heh: into his arms? (what? it&#39;s just a suggestion&#33; :heh: )
I would strongly advise against presenting yourself in such a manner to someone you hold an interest in. Unless you are naturally clumsy, of course - what use is having a boy that likes a girl that you pretend to be? There are other reasons explaining "why not", but I think this is one of the best I could give you. :ph34r:

As for restaurant suggestion . . . no. :ph34r: Especially not in a fancy restaurant. >.<

And as for your bestr friend/ his ex . . . who is more important to you, the boy or the girl? Knowing the answer to this question helps.

what use is having a boy that likes a girl that you pretend to be?

The point of that is to show that you like the guy. You&#39;re not acting, your hinting. Boys don&#39;t get hints easily if they&#39;re not obvious. That&#39;s probably one of the most obvious ways of going about it. The restaurant suggestion sounded stupid to me too but you can&#39;t turn down free advice. How do you know it doesn&#39;t work? You&#39;ve never tried&#33; Just because it might sound stupid to you, doesn&#39;t mean it sounds stupid to someone else...depends how much you care about your self-image.

Nuh-uh as Vash said there&#39;s always a way to make everyone happy. Your method ends up using selfish opinions. I&#39;ve seen this situation happen before so that is definitely not the right path to take if im guessing what you&#39;re going to suggest next from the answer but I admit i might be wrong with this last point if i didn&#39;t guess right. It&#39;s just what I assume you&#39;re talking about from your answer red stone.

Actually both sound from the viewpoint that you just care what other people think of you to get what you want so it does kind of contradict what you are saying in the quote. :think:

Oh....yer the food...just eat it&#33; ^_^ well then maybe try feeding him with some of your food and say "try this it tastes good&#33;" :heh: My advice isn&#39;t always serious by the way. Just have a silly imagination :heh: Oh man, look how much you made me type red stone <whines>. so much effort&#33; X_X

The trick is to know how other people&#39;s mind tick. =P Zach can back me on this. :shifty:

One thing for sure; once you learn how to play hardball, it&#39;s damn hard to stop playing. :ph34r:

EDIT: Actually, the trick is to know thyself. Yeah, that sounds much cooler. ^.^

yup&#33; I have to agree with you there red stone. But how do you figure out how the mind ticks? And how do you know you&#39;re sure when you do?

uh-huh so just go with your heart then babiixgrl. go with what you think is right and if you make the wrong decisions you can just learn from your mistakes. ^_^

One word: experience.

Fake it until you make it - it&#39;s a school of hard knocks, but what doesn&#39;t kill you makes you stronger.

^_^ you don&#39;t actually know then. I was thinking more of psychological stuff which I though you were going to go on about. You said fake it&#33; Why? doesn&#39;t that suggest that the person doesn&#39;t fall for the real you which contradicted your first advice? but yeah the experience shouldn&#39;t kill you.

love is better unpredictable anyway. makes it one of the most intriguing emotions like that. ^_^

Oh, I wouldn&#39;t pretend to know how *everyone* thinks. =P But I know how the majority of the the people that I&#39;m interested in thinks under certain conditions. :shifty:

And I did not specify what to fake. =P That&#39;s for you to find out yourself.

Is love truely better unpredictable? I&#39;m too young to answer that question - but is one ever old enough to do so? =P

LOL&#33;&#33;&#33; You sound like me :heh: but only when I&#39;m in a serious mood which hasn&#39;t been often nowadays&#33; those conditions involve ice-cream? mmmm.....ice-cream&#33; ^_^

um....spontaneity keeps love alive. If people were so predictable then there would be discrimination in the world for work and stuff. Up to what you think at the end of the day though.

Oh, let&#39;s just say that we have free will, and that entails an (in?)convenient amount of unpredictability.

But I prefer free will. =P

And as for the conditions . . . that&#39;s trade secret. :ph34r:

XD Nah, it&#39;s better for people to find out about that themselves. "Give a man a fish, feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish, feed him for a lifetime." - Sashiro quoting Unknown

Originally posted by Red Stone@Feb 22 2005, 10:26 PM
The trick is to know how other people&#39;s mind tick. =P Zach can back me on this. :shifty:

One thing for sure; once you learn how to play hardball, it&#39;s damn hard to stop playing. :ph34r:

EDIT: Actually, the trick is to know thyself. Yeah, that sounds much cooler. ^.^
Right. You have to know how the person you have a crush on works which is why you have to get to know them better first and then manipulate them to think that they&#39;d be so much better off if you were always around and then.. play hard to get. They&#39;ll go crazy for you and ask YOU out. Works like a charm.

wow you two are really cunning&#33; never heard that advice before but sounds like a good way. I&#39;m squeeky nice though so I don&#39;t think I&#39;d be doing that. But surely sometimes you don&#39;t need that to get the person to ask you out. Well I can start a psychology topic if you guys want, then we could discuss all this stuff instead of taking up poor babiigrl&#39;s....I don&#39;t know what the word is to describe this whole chain of talking stuff :heh: I reckon we could both learn something from each other Zach and Red stone :shifty: :whistle: (jokes, not in that way&#33; I&#39;m not that mean&#33;)

(does this post violate any rules? sounds like a conversation rather than a discussion)

ooh.. nice tips.. heheh

but i got a problem too....
i like two people.. and a lot of people tell me that both of them like me too...
im not fully sure if one of them likes me in that way.. coz we recently became friends.. we are really close&#33;&#33; and me friends say that she is indicating to me that she likes me.. but im blind.. lol.. so i cant tell..
but also. the other girl.. people have told me that she has liked me for a while... and she still does like me..
but as for me.. i like them both...

its sorta like the case in &#39;OC&#39;, whats that dudes name?? seth&#33;&#33; im kinda in the position that seth is in.. except i cant copy what he did.. coz it ended up turning bad for him... lol...
so what should i do?? just go for one of them?? bcoz i dont wanna break up any of my relationships i currently have with them...
im scared if i go out with one the other mite walk away and not be friends with me...
mayb i shouldn go out with them at all.. i dunno...

Originally posted by shui_hu@Feb 23 2005, 10:13 PM
mayb i shouldn go out with them at all.. i dunno...
I would strongly recommend against doing so. =P

Ask your friends, heck, your parents, people around you. I would guess that they would know the situation better than anyone you only know over the Internet. =P

Thats easy, man. Just ask the one that appeals to your sense of liking more. If you get rejected (which seems unlikely) you have another one waiting in the wings. Easy as Pie.

lol kk... ill see how it goes then.. wish me luck&#33;&#33; :(

Dangit, Zack hits the spot with much less hassle everytime. =D The simpler the better&#33;

thats alot of good advice&#33; ill make sure i put it into consideration.. :think: :D

and as for shui_hui...

ive had that problem with the same person&#33;... we had mutual feelings for eachother but then... he was scared because we had a great relationship with eachother (which still exists now) and he was scared that if we dated and one of us messed up.. like made eachother mad that we would like hurt that relationship.. but instead we just became stronger when we told eachother that... ^_^ weird how things work out aint it?

shui_hui

I&#39;d say do both what red stone and zach has said because if your relationship with those people takes a tumble and if everything doesn&#39;t turn out that well, they weren&#39;t really that close to you afterall as they would stick by you no matter what if they were. :blink:

I simply do nothing. The crush normally goes away sooner or later.

if everything doesn&#39;t turn out that well, they weren&#39;t really that close to you afterall as they would stick by you no matter what if they were

hmm.. i guess your rite... i just dont wanna hurt anyones feelings...
because once.. i had a crush on this other friend.. (wot is it wit me n friends.. -_-&#39;&#39;) and so later on she found out (really i didn want the relationship to go to that extent.. i just wanted to b friends...)
and so yeah.. she found out.. and then we didn talk after that.. we avoided each other for 3 or 4 yrs or so... now we r good friends again...
so yeah.. i just dont want the same thing to happen again....
but ill talk over it with me friends and stuff... ill see what they think...
but i probably mite go with Zach, go for one and if i get rejected i have the other to go to.... =s or maybe i wont.. i dunno.. ill ask me friends.. lol

btw.. me name is shui_hu.. not shui_hui.. <_< lol.. no matter :D

and thanx for the help guys ^_^ v

and so yeah.. she found out.. and then we didn talk after that.. we avoided each other for 3 or 4 yrs or so...

yeah i hate it when that happens&#33; that&#39;s why i said that really.

oops&#33; i&#39;m so sorry&#33; I think you&#39;ve just pointed out that i can&#39;t read properly shui hu. Sorry must have been day dreaming when i typed your name wrong. wasn&#39;t meant to be insulting. :heh:

go for it mate&#33; just remember no regrets....

i have a few crushes

....>_>
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:D

i know what u feel, i got a crush too. she is beatyful, in spirit and in body, rolleyes.gif but every time i speak to her or i see her, i feel like my heart is being torn apart because i know ill never be good enough, nice enough or good lookin enough for er. but i am content that she does not think too lowly of me, and i am very good at hyding my emotions, so i dont look stupid when im near her like in some movies or stuff. (u know the guy who has the crush tries to speak to the girl and he looks like an idiot when trying to say something like hello...)

yeah that&#39;s defintly me but i perfer to add my own little twist to it like this. hide it from her and think about it daily for many a month. proceeded to go partially insane from thinking about it too much. Punch self for not being able to simple say how you feel about her. attempt at making pentagram&#39;s from "Full Metal Alchemist" to destroy her current boyfriend. after the failed pentagram attempt, proceed to give her gifts without her knowing it. (Like 16 flowers on valentines day on her doorstep, but without telling her it&#39;s from yourself) Knowing that the person&#39;s a dear friend (I talk to her everyday) try to spend time with her and find out everything possible about her without her finding out. Mention that you like someone by accendent. Realize that that person has now told almost everyone you know that you like someone. Create elabrote scheme to throw them off track. Gain multiple personalty&#39;s and practise lying in front of a mirror to see what looks best. Tell one person who you truly like and swear them to secrecy. tell another and create deadly contract should they tell. ly in bed and realize what has happened to your once peaceful and great world as your mind slowy devours itself in teenage insanity.

hehe, srry. hope all you people have better luck than me in this crazy messed up emotion. :D

yeah that&#39;s defintly me but i perfer to add my own little twist to it like this. hide it from her and think about it daily for many a month. proceeded to go partially insane from thinking about it too much. Punch self for not being able to simple say how you feel about her. attempt at making pentagram&#39;s from "Full Metal Alchemist" to destroy her current boyfriend. after the failed pentagram attempt, proceed to give her gifts without her knowing it. (Like 16 flowers on valentines day on her doorstep, but without telling her it&#39;s from yourself) Knowing that the person&#39;s a dear friend (I talk to her everyday) try to spend time with her and find out everything possible about her without her finding out. Mention that you like someone by accendent. Realize that that person has now told almost everyone you know that you like someone. Create elabrote scheme to throw them off track. Gain multiple personalty&#39;s and practise lying in front of a mirror to see what looks best. Tell one person who you truly like and swear them to secrecy. tell another and create deadly contract should they tell. ly in bed and realize what has happened to your once peaceful and great world as your mind slowy devours itself in teenage insanity.


awwww. that&#39;s kinda cute. you should just summon up all your courage and say that you fancy her. If you really go to all that trouble to give her flowers you shouldn&#39;t be afraid to just let her know how you feel. If you really love her, it would be selfish of you not to take the risk of telling her because your fear of rejection means that your only thinking of yourself rather than thinking of the girl you love. Don&#39;t worry about her boyfriend. Looks like it&#39;s killing you inside how you feel about her. After that if she sort of mumbles something and starts to ignore you, just move on. That&#39;s life really. I know it sounds easy in theory but it&#39;s hard in reality. I do as I say so you can&#39;t accuse me of saying something i wouldnt do.

In the words of a certain sports company; Just do it&#33; :D

Um... I don&#39;t know... I haven&#39;t ever told anyone I liked them... :(

Crushes come and go. So sometimes I don&#39;t think people should look too into it. Sometimes telling them either turns out great... or really bad. You&#39;re choice. But I&#39;ve never told anyone I liked them. But I have heard of people who liked me...

I used to like this guy and I knew his best friend cause I was best friends with his best friends and... yeah... I dunno if they ever told that guy cause onetime on a conversation (MSN) he said I love you. But I am very sure sure it was a joke. So I would suggest not telling people who you like.

The longer i have feeling&#39;s for her the easier it is for me to deal with it. i don&#39;t know weither to be happy about this - mabye i&#39;ll finally get over her one day. or to be sad about it - if i really like so much why is it becoming easier....am i becoming desensitized? I appreciate all your support guys but i think it&#39;d be better if i just left this girl alone. It really is a lot easier to tolerate it once you accept and learn to live with it. hehe mabye one day i&#39;ll have her. At least she&#39;s my friend so i can see and talk to her a lot. although that also causes a bit of a problem where what if she reacts all weird like and stuff....and to lose her as a friend is the last thing i want to happen. hehe Oh well... good luck to everyone else :sweatdrop: &#33;

liked a friend. (thats a girl)
told her
She hated me
Things cool off
where friends again
yay ^_^

is it normal for a crush to last more than a year?

kuz ive had my crush for over a year... im startin to think this is more that a crush. the girl i have a crush (or watever it is) has a boyfriend. contrairyly to what you might think, im not jealous. im happy. no im really happy because she is happy with her boyfriend. if she is happy, thats all that matters.

It happens.

your right if she&#39;s happy thats what really matters

Is it? I suppose I could be mistaken. I&#39;m sorry, old people like me tend to get cynical, especially when it&#39;s about to rain; my joints are acting up again.

Originally posted by Red Stone@Mar 15 2005, 02:37 AM
Is it? I suppose I could be mistaken. I&#39;m sorry, old people like me tend to get cynical, especially when it&#39;s about to rain; my joints are acting up again.
You&#39;re not old, you just behave like an old fart.

Don&#39;t we all (like to behave like an old fart)?

Er . . . maybe not.

Originally posted by badgerglue@Mar 15 2005, 12:34 PM
your right if she&#39;s happy thats what really matters
wanting her to be happy is one thing... but of coz, she can&#39;t be happy all the time, other emotions are what make people human. I think she has the right to know your feelings for her. Perhaps you think it&#39;s wrong, thinking it might ruin what she and her boyfriend currently has, but it&#39;s unfair on yourself if you just keep watching and doing nothing about it... in fact.. it&#39;s really sad, considering how you&#39;ve liked her for so long....

the ultimate sacrifice:

your happiness for her&#39;s... is that the correct thing to do? maybe a person should not &#39;sacrifice&#39; his happiness, and try to win his loved one over...

hmmm...

well the real thing is.. i cant tell her. itn not an emotional thing, id be glad to tell her, but beacause of certain things, i cant. you see, its like in if a leper asked a married princess in marrage.

shes not a princess or anything, and im not a leper or anything... but the principal is still the same

Shade i pray for your luck for this girl. i know of your pain and it is hard. i cannot say much but to look up, for oneday she shall leave her boyfriend and then you can comfort and be with her. You seem to be someone who has a good kind heart. You have only her best wishes at heart and that is more honorable then just someone who wants her for her looks. And if you don&#39;t ever get her then don&#39;t fear. she will still remeber you for your kindness and as they say...."time heals all wounds."

awww.... thanks... i feel all warm and mushy inside&#33; you guys are the best&#33;

but still, in my position, i could never hope to share my true feelings to her. the best i can hope for is to be the best friend for her i can be.

you can go to bed tonight thinking you made someone very happy. thank you

is it normal for a crush to last more than a year?
umm.. i think soo.. because i had a crush for round 3 yrs... hahaha... i just couldnt get over her... ohwellz...

I do feel good that i&#39;ve made someone feel good. it&#39;s a great feeling to know that you&#39;ve helped someone feel better. As for being the best friend you can be. I know you will succeded with great success. It seems as if we both are at this cross-roads in life. and we both have the same outlook on it......i&#39;m so happy i&#39;m not the only person who feels so about love...and about my chances of having the ones we love. we are a rarity in this world shade...or at least...in my school :D

For some reason, I think it&#39;s really weird that it&#39;s mainly guys that participate in this discussion. (Correct me if i&#39;m wrong) I&#39;ve never seen a discussion with guys before on this topic but I&#39;ve got nothing against it. Hope stuff goes well with both of you, but if not there are other girls out there that you might fall for just as much. Love&#39;s a game, you just need to know how to play it.

Originally posted by an&#045;kun@Mar 17 2005, 03:19 PM
Love&#39;s a game, you just need to know how to play it.
Hmm . . . . . .

i know that saying... but i will never truly be with anyone, since i cant be with her.

if a girl falls madly in love with me, ill do everything to make her happy, but i will still keep my vow.

if love&#39;s a game... it&#39;s a game I would prefer not to get involved in. I don&#39;t think love&#39;s a game. In shade&#39;s case, I seriously doubt his crush for this girl is merely a game either.

@shade: you&#39;re a really sincere person, I hope that one day, that girl will turn around and realize the feelings you have for her, because it is sad that she doesn&#39;t know because you are unable to express it to her...

mabye it&#39;s a game. if it is i&#39;ll say this. there&#39;s more lyer&#39;s and cheaters in in then any other. no one plays by the rules and i don&#39;t even know how to play the game :sweatdrop: i guess some people are masters at the game and there&#39;s noobs like me who can&#39;t play it right for our lives.....although i must say half the peple who are master&#39;s are really cheater&#39;s.

@Shade: you, sir, are one of the most honorable people i have meet in my life. I bow to you and hope i may take example from your comments. *Bows really really low*

if love&#39;s a game... it&#39;s a game I would prefer not to get involved in. I don&#39;t think love&#39;s a game. In shade&#39;s case, I seriously doubt his crush for this girl is merely a game either.

it&#39;s a game. why? because in true nature, animals have to fight each other for females so that they can reproduce. This shows how powerful they are. Either that or they display their features to potential mates or who can provide the most food. In human terms, this game is known as dating. Females are used to being the ones that get fought over for so thats essentially what you have to do (but NOT in a violent way). So although nice guys don&#39;t always finish last, they never finish first :think: Sorry for the biology lecture :heh:

You&#39;ll have to tell her sometime shade eventually. The longer you leave it the longer your heart aches (it might ache after though :heh: )

id like to say thatnk you, again. your comments seem to me more honorable than u say mine are. thanks.

I didn&#39;t say there was anything wrong with your comments. Much respect back atcha. ^_^

Originally posted by an&#045;kun@Mar 17 2005, 03:19 PM
For some reason, I think it&#39;s really weird that it&#39;s mainly guys that participate in this discussion. (Correct me if i&#39;m wrong) I&#39;ve never seen a discussion with guys before on this topic but I&#39;ve got nothing against it. Hope stuff goes well with both of you, but if not there are other girls out there that you might fall for just as much. Love&#39;s a game, you just need to know how to play it.


What&#39;s wrong with that? In this world, a guy has nowhere to share his feelings, except in this tiny box to people he will never meet. Our society drills feeling out of the males of our species, and it&#39;s wrong&#33; I am happy I&#39;m not the only guy on this forum reading this post. It is a portent of a change coming.

And shade--dude; just pull her off to one side, tell her how you feel, and in a worst case scenario, you&#39;ll still feel better. Trust me; been there, done that. Just keeping it inside does allow it to grow, but it hurts, too. Being open and honest is the best possible way to do things.

P

If you read it properly then you&#39;d see I had said i&#39;ve got nothing against it. What I meant by weird was i&#39;ve never seen it before so as you say it is a period of change. -_-

Originally posted by AtomicSpud@Mar 21 2005, 03:07 PM
And shade--dude; just pull her off to one side, tell her how you feel, and in a worst case scenario, you&#39;ll still feel better.
Unfortunately, I have to agree with AtomicSpud on this one. Perhaps you will learn now, perhaps later - perhaps never, but as the Chinese say, "better short pain than long".

Or something along the lines.

However, it is not wrong to think that it would be best to keep it to yourself, and to do that. It is perfectly natural. There is no right and wrong in these matters - well, rarely so, since I cannot claim to have seen all of them. But I must applaud you for being so mature as to recognise the feelings of others, let this trait not part with you, young Padawan.



Man, do I feel old.

look i know it looks like the right thing to do but... ive known her for many years and it would reeeeeealy look stupid if i came one day and said "hey **** (name removed), i love you."

also, ive gone over ALL, i mean ALL possible outcomes, and the chances of happyness for ANYONE, ANYONE AT ALL, are in the likes of 0, out of a million.

thanks anyways... i truly appreciate it.

ill post something if ever i get over this broken hert &#39;o mine. (_ _)



ps. Red stone, i dont think ur old... i think ur just a star wars fanatic. like me.

actually you never know until you try dude...but think what you think. We can&#39;t sort out your problems if you&#39;re not going to be pro active. Thinking too much isn&#39;t always the best option but it&#39;s your life. People aren&#39;t as predictable as you think. Also it isnt really stupid unless you just blurt it out. Something called a build-up approach with body language and tone of voice and facial expressions. You have asked a girl out before right?

P.S. Red stone you&#39;re not old, just mature for your age -_-

sorry if i&#39;m not any help.. :unsure:

ive got another problem related to that...

awhile ago i asked him why he liked me and he said that im honest and stuf and then he asked me a question it was "do you like me?" then i explained to him how i felt.. how i would get jealous of him when would talk to other girls and all that stuff... and yesterday... one of his friends and me were talking and then his friends told me that he liked his old ex and that he wanted to get back with her but then put my feelings into consideration.... and thought that if he did ask her out that i would be sad and stuff... :unsure: which i wwould be but i dont want like him not to date the girl he liked because of me&#33;

i made sure that he still liked her and that she still like him and they both did.. what should i do?

should i:...
1) tell him that i dont mind if he asks her out and that ill be okay if he does and that i just want them to be happy...
2) do nothing about it...let whatever happen happen...
3) whatever else you guys think i should do...

i&#39;ve got good new for all of you&#33; i have finally got a girlfriend&#33; hehehe yay my first girlfriend ever&#33; haha and i didn&#39;t even ask her out...it just kinda happend. Not the girl i was referring to (her name&#39;s brianna) but someone else who liked me called Carolyn. we&#39;ve been going out for a week or so now and i&#39;m really happy to be with her and i&#39;m trying really hard to be good enough for her. the only dent in it is that i still can&#39;t completly get that other girl (brianna) out of head.....well in any case this proves it. if I&#33; can get a girlfriend than Shade your guarenteed. best hopes for all and i&#39;m sorry bout not knowing what to say babiixgrl

oooh.. GRATS ~&#33;&#33;
so how did it happen?? and with brianna, well if you and your current gilrfriend really hit it on.. getting along and all.. you wont even think about brianna anymore...
dont worry too much i say...

but yeah.. tips? =D

Originally posted by babiixgrl@Apr 1 2005, 09:57 AM
should i:...
1) tell him that i dont mind if he asks her out and that ill be okay if he does and that i just want them to be happy...
2) do nothing about it...let whatever happen happen...
3) whatever else you guys think i should do...
you should at least tell him how you feel, even if he does like someone else. He has the right to know how you feel, not to mention, you&#39;d probably feel a lot better yourself afterwards too. Don&#39;t think that by doing that you&#39;re trying to stop him from liking his ex, as in-- don&#39;t feel guilty.... if he really likes the other girl.... and wants to get back with her, then he will, though he should at least know how you feel...

congrats to A simple gamer&#33; ^^

love problems are just so complicated.... i wouldnt know what to do either....





something special happened. the one i hold dear (even if she doesnt know it) told me that she would like to see what kendo is like&#33; im the only one she knows that does kendo, and i am certain that this could hopefully bring me closer to her, since there is only one kendo dojo in the erea. the class is also advanced and i could help her with the basics of kendo.

i hope this turns out all right... that nothing bad happens...



ps. i promise, if ever she asks me if i like her, ill say yes. thats a real promise. thru and thru. id never miss an oppertinity like that.

ps. i promise, if ever she asks me if i like her, ill say yes. thats a real promise. thru and thru. id never miss an oppertinity like that.

I&#39;m glad that got through to you in the end. Congrats simple gamer. Maybe there&#39;s such thing as fate....

babiixgrl - probably no. 1 because he might end up regretting his missed opportunity of asking his ex out again adn if he does he might blame you for it and use it as a pathetic reason to break up if he ever does. Possibly he might just end up regretting what you&#39;ve go to offer. It&#39;s better to ask him if he wants someone he has had or someone that could offer something new to him. If he wants to live in the past he&#39;ll go back to his ex (which suggests he&#39;s got his own problems) but if he&#39;s clever enough he&#39;d choose you. I have no idea what i&#39;ve just said but it sounds sorta helpful maybe... :blink:

sorry if it ain&#39;t... :heh:

awwww thanks everyone. and babxii i think i&#39;ll have to go with #1 as well. but don&#39;t say that if you really don&#39;t feel that way. you shouldn&#39;t ly about feelings like that. and shade...woo&#33; you keep getting a better and better chance of going out with that gal shade&#33; WOO&#33;

well i confronted him today and he told me like it wasnt no thing like a chicken wing&#33; but i think that was a good thing.. at least he didnt hide it from me... :D

but in the middle of the talk we were intruded by some other people.. *sighh :(

ack...that&#39;s why i always confront people like that first online and then if they refuse to talk, i get them in person...i hate talking to people offline. I&#39;m so much more me online.

I&#39;ve only just got close to people as friends after spending seven years pushing people away, and now i feel really strongly for someone, but i don&#39;t know whether or not it&#39;s a crush or just really strong friendship.

I&#39;ve never really felt either before, so i don&#39;t know how to deal with it- but basically i feel like slitting my wrists when i&#39;m not around that person, and whenever i&#39;m with that person, i just feel so much better..almost content. I&#39;m scared that this may not be either and i may just have some kind of obsession :unsure:

thorn-
grats&#33;&#33; grats on making new friends and a new start.. *peace dude ;) *
but is it you dont know if you have a crush or if its an obsession?? hm...
well according to my vocab (which isnt very big...) having a crush and obsession is similiar... mmmm... well since you said that you havent really had many close friends before, maybe your just having a good feeling for friends...
for now, id say... that the person is just a raelly close friend to you...
um... hmm... well realy i dunno..
but if you did have a crush of somesort.. then... you would have more feelings for them, you cant keep them out of your mind... erhh...
mmm.. well i dunno, dont take my advice (if i gave any..)

but erhh... id say just kewl down a little, there is no need to slit wrists just because your not with that person... because it doesnt do you much good...
if you cant stop being away from the person, then just give them a call... or email.. or msn ^_^
but just remember, dont go around stalking them.. it would just scare them off...

so just keep the friendhsip friendly for now.. and if in a few months you still have these feelings, then maybe its somthing more... or even talk to the person about it, just dont be scared ;)
as my mum says -you cant have everything you want...

but erhh... id say just kewl down a little, there is no need to slit wrists just because your not with that person...

:think: i think that thing i said about slitting wrists was mainly to do with the fact that i was feeling crap last night anyway- i didn&#39;t mean literally- lol. I suppose it was because i was missing this person last night and on top of that i felt rubbish- i don&#39;t feel that bad all the time i&#39;m away from them.


but just remember, dont go around stalking them.. it would just scare them off...

:heh: lol i would never do that- i feel guilty enough as it is whenever i&#39;m around them because i can be really boring sometimes X_X so don&#39;t worry- it&#39;s never going to come to that.

sounds like a crush. Friendship doesn&#39;t go as far as missing the person unless you havnt been with them for a long time.

you people are such great people for helping people like us with these things. most people would just shrug their shoulders and not care less let alone give us advice.

i try not to think about it =/
makes life alot simpler

you people are such great people for helping people like us with these things. most people would just shrug their shoulders and not care less let alone give us advice.

i agree- when i first came here- i was afraid to ask for advice or anything, because other forums i know discrimnate a lot between old and new members. but i&#39;ve been proven wrong with this forum :heh:


i try not to think about it =/
makes life alot simpler

you should never go into denial/ repress feelings because they come back to haunt you later- ALWAYS. ignorance is only a short term coping strategy, but useless in the long term.

so Thorn... how ya doing?? i mean with the girl.. lol you still feel the same way??

oh and as for the girl that i like... (read a few pages back... hehee) i still havnt made my move XD just too scary... and she is going through a rough time rite now too.. because there is this guy that likes her.. and its getting out of control... so i dont want her to know that there is anothery guy who likes her too.. and also.. what if they other dude gets more jealous and wantsa kill me =S

if you dont make ur move than you&#39;ll never know what ur missing...

well shui hu i wouldn&#39;t tell her yet in that position. The other guy kinda sounds unstable so i&#39;d wait. can&#39;t tell for sure what the other guy is like so i can&#39;t give you anymore advice on what to do.

simplegamer - We&#39;re just trying to be nice. Guess the other forums must be pants if there&#39;s discrimination. They must be cliquey as a whole group rather than at ichigos where there are a few cliques. People like that don&#39;t progress too far in life. :think:

ya, im gonna wait... except this obssession thing with her and her friend has been going on for a while... the whole skewl knows&#33;&#33;&#33; im scared that it would never end...

so Thorn... how ya doing?? i mean with the girl.. lol you still feel the same way??

:heh: ye- about that, it was actually a guy that i felt that way about, i just didn&#39;t want to say before in case anyone let prejudices get in the way of what they said to me- even though that was the thing that confused me the most....

anyway- we&#39;ve been spending a lot of time together this week (see depression thread, i cant be bothered to type it out again) and i&#39;ve kind of calmed down with these emotions, and realised that he&#39;s a really close friend- which may have felt to me like a crush, because i&#39;ve never had that before. anyway- i have no doubts anymore. :)

I don&#39;t think there&#39;s much prejudice on this site, which is a surprise. I still would have given the same advice anyway.

the one that is dear to me said she would like to come to a kendo practice... im impatiently wayting for todays kendo practice thats in three hours

i hope she will be there :unsure: :rolleyes: :unsure: :rolleyes:

cross ur fingers&#33; ^.^


ps. good 4 u thorn. there is no better mood enhancer than spending a bit of time with the ones u love.

cheers

@Shade: Believe it or not kendo is the best way to bond with someone. XD *Des is a kendoka and has met many people through kendo, whom she now knows quite well*

lol i do beleive kendo is a good way of making friends. ive already made three&#33;

bummer she couldn come this time. =_=

emmm... id just like to ask..... can an administrator plz move this thread too the private forum of this place... i donno... :unsure: -_-

lol.. i too some-what agree to move it to the private....
because this is our personal lives here.. we dont want just anyone reading it.. do we?

edit : oh hahaha wait&#33;&#33;&#33; its already in the private thread.. :heh: dont mind me.. lol

okok, noting back to my crushes...
as if you remember, i liked 2 girls.. and now, i dont even think about one of them anymore.. which is good...
but the one that i really like now, well, as i said a few posts back, she has her problems.. so ya

the thing is.. everyone kinda knows i like her.. and if she finds out, i want her to know from me...
so how do i tell her that i like her, without making it a weird situation...
also, she has said that her dad wont allow her to date just yet...
so how do i just tell her my feelings?? without it seeming like im tryin to push her into anything..

ill say that i hate situations like that&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33; But if you get it over with and tell her you will feal much better. Im sry but i dont know what to do about her dad thing but i think you should tell her. And if all goes well than mabye come out with a girlfriend. And if it doesnt life goes on. But you will never get anywere if you dont try. So you&#39;ll never know what your missin. Good luck to you. And about pushing her. dont like come in and just say "will you go out with me" than repeat it alot of times. Tell her slow dont just come out and say it build up to it.

lol, the thing also is... im not 100% sure if she likes me or anything... surely we are very close... but im scared maybe im just like a big bro to her...

i know what you mean man.

but like i said you wont know if you dont try.

okok, ill try this sunday... (note, i said the word "try")

Thats cool good luck&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;

ok, well... i didn get a chance to talk to her... because we were busy the whole time... and when we had the chance to talk she had to go...
so ya, have to wait another week =S

that sucks.

Get MSN you two =P

a whole page of back and forth talking... wow...

lol, well i do have msn =P
but ya, i just thought that those who read this thread might like to know how it went.... but ya.. a
nywayz.. it obviously didnt go far

hmmmmm crushes...i lost count on how many crushes i had.....but my longerst crush went for 3 and a half years ^^ long eh.....Kon = sad......

hmmmmmmmm actually i think i have a crush on one of our members here ^^ i think she or her friends know about it......no wait one of her friends definately knows about it cause i told her lol ^^ *whisltes* any ways *cough cough* yeah....thatas pretty much it...

lol.. 3 years&#33;&#33;&#33; i dont know if i alreayd told anyone on the forums.. but i too have liked a girl for over 4 years...
she found out and then our friendship just smashed&#33;&#33;&#33; we never talked or anything&#33;&#33;&#33; then last year we started talking again.. and now we are good friends ^^

Originally posted by shui_hu@May 7 2005, 07:53 AM
lol.. 3 years&#33;&#33;&#33; i dont know if i alreayd told anyone on the forums.. but i too have liked a girl for over 4 years...
she found out and then our friendship just smashed&#33;&#33;&#33; we never talked or anything&#33;&#33;&#33; then last year we started talking again.. and now we are good friends ^^
thats why i dont wanna tell my love.... ugh... if she ever hated me i would hate myself for the rest of my life... and plus, she likes this other guy, he is very nice, tall, light brown hair, big eyes. just a good guy. i know him, hes is a great chap.. she is happy with him. when she has a smile on her face i just melt.... thats why i dont wanna risk pissin er off. also, little unworthy me is more than content of being one of her friends. thats why ill try being her friend, and ill never stop "being the guy she can talk to"

well, cheers

shade dude you depress me. It&#39;s like in the movies. You&#39;re the hero and the girl you fancy is off with someone else. You struggle with emotions and then one day there&#39;s a happy ending when she realises you&#39;re the one. That&#39;s fiction. Real life states that if you want a partner, get off your ass. If you have any idea about clothes you can start complimenting her saying "you look nice today" or "nice top". At least hint mate, you&#39;re gonna drive me looney otherwise.....hehe i&#39;m joking. I&#39;m no cupid, I just get things done and half the time it works....hope it makes sense anyhow.

awww Shade&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33; That&#39;s not the right way to be thinking&#33; Why not just tell her? If she hates you for it then she&#39;s not the right kind of person to be around anyways&#33; And who knows what if she feels the same way you do? You&#39;ll never know....

[Edit]: *kicks ank (thats ur new nicknamce btw) for posting one minute before me and saying the same thing :bleh: *

you snooze, you lose&#33; :P

you turned my nickname into another nickname&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33; :bleh: <laughs>

look ppl.. she likes this other guy ok??????? im NOT the kinda person to steal ppl from other ppl&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33; GAHHHHH&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;

to an-kun: im sorry i didnt mean to make you upset. plz forgive me

the thing is.. since she is my friend, and i like her... then its harder than asking if it was somone i didnt know...
because there is soo much more on the line&#33;&#33;&#33; if i tell her, then already there is embarrisment, and if she rejects then possible decrease in freindship and also hearts get broken
but if i didn know them, then its just embarrisment...

its just so scary *runs away*

that is true. i would be much more comfortable in asking someone out if he and she just met. in the case of i and my love, ive known since grade shool. i know her parents, and her parents know my parents.... its harder now because she has been my friend for a reeeeeaaaallly long time, so has her parents and mine... grrrrr....

and she already like someone&#33;&#33;&#33;

what do u wnat me to do&#33;&#33;&#33;

when you say "like"....you mean she talks about him constantly or she&#39;s dating him?

i say like as in she looks at him with dreamy eyes, they both think each other is cute, thats stuff. about the tating stuff, itll come.

hmph...y can&#39;t you just tell her tho?

<---stubborn and confused (bad combo)

ill wait for the right moment.

Yer timing is important. Could make all the difference.

lol.. 3 years&#33;&#33;&#33; i dont know if i alreayd told anyone on the forums.. but i too have liked a girl for over 4 years...
she found out and then our friendship just smashed&#33;&#33;&#33; we never talked or anything&#33;&#33;&#33; then last year we started talking again.. and now we are good friends ^^

[a little late but]

That happened to me. It sucked&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33; I was always scaried to tell the girls i like that i like them. Well the one girl that i liked hated me for a bit. Now everything is fine, but all of my friends keep telling me stuff like "o she like him and this other kid." and stuff like that and it still hurts. And the other day she came up to me and told me that her bf told her that he loves her and all this crap. I dont really want to hear it you know. And my best friend likes her now. ARG&#33;&#33;&#33;

competition eh... =/ and its your best friend too&#33;&#33;&#33; does your bestfriend know that you like her??

oooooooooooooooooooooo thats not good >.< pain in ass when that happens....*sigh* still cant get over crush >.< any ways....guess what i learnt today......^^ apparently when i went on camp with year 7&#39;s as a mentor *me a year 10 mentor* two of the friends i made there *females* has a crush on me ^^ scary thing was......i actually had a crush on them for a while O.O;;; *is scared and feels like a pedophile* any ways ^^

^ How the fishy could you just end that disturbing post if "anyways"?&#33;

XD

Just bear in mind that you people are still relatively young. =P

lol, that my trade mark, any ways.... ummm lol yeah we are still young...any who...

competition eh... =/ and its your best friend too&#33;&#33;&#33; does your bestfriend know that you like her??

o yah he was the first one i told. but i didnt know he liked her.

what a harsh reality we all live in... :think:

yah i know.

so who liked her first?? you or him?? lol, kind of a stupid question.. but anywayz....
so when you told him, did he tell you that he liked her too?? how did he react when you told him?

well i liked her first. Than i told him. But at the time he didnt like her. Then like 3 months l8r he likes her. He knows that im hurt by it.

oooh dang... now thats kind of evil of him...
well i dont know what to do in your situation, but all i can say is, dont lose your friendship over this little thing... your friendship is much more than a girl...
then when he gets over her, you quickly take her :shifty:

no she sorta hates me. When i come near her she hits me and walks away. O crap i shouldnt be talking about this because one of my friends on ichigos knows her in real life and she will tell her and she will get mad that im talking to her&#33;&#33;&#33;o well.

then tell that friend not to tell

anywayz.. so you think she hates you eh?? maybe she hates you because she knows you likes her but you wont ask her??

or maybe, she isnt the right one for you... if she doesnt treat you right, then you wont be all that much happy with her...

well i have asked her out lots of times. and my friend will get mad that im talking about her.

i dont know. im was basicly over her till my friend said that he likes her.

*looks around for a nice girl to ask out*

she hits me and walks away


:kirbyfreaked: THAT&#39;S SO MEAN&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33; why does she hit you??

well obviously she doesn like him... since he has already asked her out multiple times...

so your going to be over her when your friend likes her??? doesn he already like her??

lol XD she thinks she is so tough. she hits everybody. AND I CAN&#39;T HIT HER BACK

well it&#39;s good that you wouldn&#39;t...(tranlation: You&#39;d better not hit her back&#33;&#33; :angry: )

thats so rude tho...

since he has already asked her out multiple times...

no i have already asked her out. sry i didnt specify.

@fob i would never hit a girl. :whistle: [quick off topic question but is that u in your avatar?

lol nah it isnt her... its ashlee simpson?? (i think she said that somwhere on the forum...)

id hit a girl XD only if she was a close friend though.. :shifty:

XD lol thats mean&#33; well i cant say i never did before. thats why i put this smily :whistle:

And yah she told me on pm. im not that much of a ashlee simpson fan.

lol.. has anyone ever had a crush on a superstar person thingy?
i mean, like a singer or actor or someone...

i have made up my mind. im telling her.someone plz respond.

ooooh&#33;&#33; your gonna tell her?? good stuff ^^
hope all goes well

i was meant to tell that i like her too... but she busy with these dance lessons so she always has to go home early, so im going to have to wait...
WAIT&#33;&#33;&#33; i can talk to her on saturday&#33;&#33;&#33; there is this event thing happening, so i should be able to talk to her then

anywayz, good luck shade ^^

im so fucking nervous... my hands are shaking and i feel like im gonna pass out... im just THINKIN about tellin er.

but i know that when im actually gonna tell her, my voice will be calm and ill look normal... FROM THE OUTSIDE. i know that cause i am confident in my abilities to hide my true feelings.

ya&#33;&#33; and in the inside your blood is rushing all over... right to your head&#33;&#33; and then your head is going to explode and tell your feet to run like hell&#33;&#33;&#33;

but hey, calm down.. its ok.. when you get to her and talk, your blood would be from [------*] to [---*---]
and after she answers youll be like [-------]-----------*
because she would have said &#39;yes&#39; s2

but ya, dont think too much about it. dont make it the first thing your going to talk about either... (well i wouldn do that... but maybe its a good idea)
see, when i talk to her im gonna say
"hey, blah blah blah (little few mintue chat chat)..."
then ill say
"umm.. erhh.. how do you feel about me? because im a little confused, iv been having feelings for you.. "

or maybe ill just say "wanna go out?? =D"

argh&#33;&#33; i really dont know&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;
me> [------*]

EDIT: maybe i wont tell her.. maybe ill just reverse the car and drive back home =S

thanks... i have a good plan of what to do now... just so my head doesnt explode, ill "shut down" my emotions when i got ot her. ive done it a billion times.

shut down? :blink:
you mean just fall over and colapse?? O_O"
fall into her arms? hehehe :shifty:

well, tell me how it goes... so i can get little help from ya ^^
when do you see her next?? tomorrow?

yep... i see her tomorrow.

for the emotion thing, i just stop. when i "shut them down" you can tell me the funnyest thing in the world, show me the saddest thing in the world, i wont budge. ive tested it. my logical brain takes over.... its easyer to deal with stuff with ur logical brain...

im off to bed now.. il tell you how it goes.

pray for me&#33;

wow&#33;&#33;&#33; i dont think i can shut myself down...
i can like, walk away and be absolutly depressed, and i can vanish&#33;&#33;
yup, only skill i have, is to vanish :ph34r:

ok then, good night ^^
hope ya have nice dreams of her ^^
anywayz, i dunno if i told you guys already, but i told a friend about the girl i like, but i think that girl likes me... so its awkard.. lol
but we putted it all aside... so we still friends

I think i&#39;m too soft when it comes to love...i had a crush on this girl, but never have the courage to say it to her, and my friend was getting really close with her, and he told me that he like that girl... (i was pretty close with her too), like i could just forget about my friend and just tell the girl straight out but...i don&#39;t know...i just chicken out i guess, and he took her V_V but we were still friends...so i guess it&#39;s not that bad...it just feels rotten...

bummer =(
i guess it really shows that if you dont step forward you aint really going to move anywhere...

--takes the car out of the garage, leaves it to warm up the engine...

*sigh* dont you just hate that.....*sigh* my love life plain down just sucks...lol ^^ i havent even kissed a girl yet >.< not even on cheek

i havent even kissed a girl yet not even on cheek

I know i havent either. i want to really bad but i cant seem to find a girl that i like to do that too.

lol.. has anyone ever had a crush on a superstar person thingy?
i mean, like a singer or actor or someone...

:heh: yes i have- i had a crush on the actress who plays Sky in neighbours when she had black and blue hair, but i got over it :/

The Red and irritating Stone unburdens his feelings&#33;

I just invited this girl to my room for tea and cake. She&#39;s left now.

>.<;;; DAMMIT&#33; DAMMIT&#33; DAMMIT&#33; DAMMIT&#33; DAMMIT&#33; >.<;;;

Note to the PUAs out there: I know, I should&#39;ve played by the rules, but . . . ah well. I guess I&#39;m not worthy of calling myself one of you? >.<;;;

Note to the AFBs out there: See? I still feel like you people at times&#33; >.<;;;

Perhaps I should&#39;ve just -

Nevermind. There is no more futile phrase than "If only". If only we could go back and live our lives again. If only we hadn&#39;t said the unkind words. "If only" is useless. We make our mistakes and move on. If I allowed myself to walk the path of "if only" I would go mad.

If only? Not. Move on, Red Stone&#33; You are not a fool, you know what needs to be done, what wants to be done, and what must be done. So get on with it, and quit looking back&#33; Let&#39;s get reeeeeeetarded&#33;

Originally posted by Red Stone@May 9 2005, 10:28 PM
Let&#39;s get reeeeeeetarded&#33;
Don&#39;t you even dare it =P

Hmm, perhaps I should&#39;ve added this: :music:

*reference to Black Eyed Peas*

dammit. she could today... my pretty one was sick&#33; i talked to her on msn a few minutes ago and i said i wanted to talk to her. she said she is feelin better and that she would be free for lunch. im gonna tell her, that i am. i shure as hell cant turn back now.

but im still more nevous than a mouse surrounded by slleping wildcats an a creaky floor.... * hands wont stop shakin.....*

ahh crap.... WHAT AM I GETTIN MYSELF INTO????

Note to the PUAs out there: I know, I should&#39;ve played by the rules, but . . . ah well. I guess I&#39;m not worthy of calling myself one of you? ;;;

Note to the AFBs out there: See? I still feel like you people at times&#33; ;;;


what&#39;s a PUA and what&#39;s an AFB? :blink:

Dude, *enters PUA mode* take a deep breath (or several), drink a cup of water, and ask yourself this question:Show spoiler (javascript:void(0);)<span style="display: none;" id="QUOTE"> How many girls are there in this world? </span>


Well, I can sympathise with you that at this very moment there is no one else in your mind but her. Or something along the lines, anyway. Show spoiler (javascript:void(0);)<span style="display: none;" id="QUOTE"> Just how old are you? Well, assuming that you&#39;ll be living for about a century longer, what are the chances of meeting someone . . . like her? No, not a 100% facsmile, just someone who&#39;s equally likable? Or even better? </span>

Hmm, I doubt you&#39;ll appreciate my second-guessing you. However, you should know that you have many options. And taking one option might mean forgoing a better choice. Show spoiler (javascript:void(0);)<span style="display: none;" id="QUOTE"> Of course, when I was at your age (ah, when I didn&#39;t need this lousy set of false teeth&#33;), I listened to my screaming hormones instead of my rational thoughts (didn&#39;t know that I had them back then). </span>

Now that I think that I&#39;ve said enough useless stuff, here&#39;re some gems from a PUA. Okay, half a PUA, then.Show spoiler (javascript:void(0);)<span style="display: none;" id="QUOTE"> 1) You got yourself into a potentially good/bad situation. Do you want it to be good? Act positively, then. Vice versa for bad.

2)Do not look at her in the eyes. Please. You might feel romantic or whatever, but she&#39;ll feel like you&#39;re eyeing her up before you go for her throat. Look at her chin, neck, or slightly lower, and sneak a few glances to her eyes now and then. Do not overdo it. Please.

3)One hint is enough (Eh?) - anymore and you won&#39;t remember anyway. =P Go for it, man&#33; </span>

Red *gives random advice without knowing WTH is going on* Stone

@shade its ok. just calm down. you&#39;ll do fine.

Dont read this if you dont want to know my tip

Show spoiler (javascript:void(0);)<span style="display: none;" id="QUOTE"> dont get your hopes up. dont think that for sure you she will go out with you. Because if your happy because your going to have a gf then she says no than you will be a wreck. (trust me i know :angry:) Just remember there are other girls. but still good luck. </span>


good luck.

Originally posted by Itachi Uchiha@May 9 2005, 07:20 AM
i havent even kissed a girl yet >.< not even on cheek
teeheeehee, i have ^^
but it was only friends, lol.. so it wasnt anything

oh&#33;&#33; and when i was young, me and my friend kissed before O_O"
we were best friends when we was young, and our parents already started making things up saying that we was gonna get married (they had our life planned out&#33;&#33;)
and so after a long long time, we didnt become friends anymore... for what reason? i dont know...
but we never realy liked each other in any &#39;kinky&#39; way....

anwayz, redstone, i still have no idea what PUA and AFB is...

and shade, its ok, calm down eh... dont go expecting too much, because if she does reject you, your gonna die... but if your not really keeping your hopes too high then youll be ok...
and as for the shaking hands thing, she might think you have a disease of some sort XD XD
so sit on your hands when you talk to her hahaha XD

@ thorn: thank you thorn, u r a true help. i know i dont really have a snowball&#39;s chance en hell to be her boyfriend, but there is this feelin i have.... well... i know ill do ok... thanks guys and gals... i appreciate ur support in my most uncertan hour * heroic, dramatic music plays* u gals and guys.... -_-

and shade, its ok, calm down eh... dont go expecting too much, because if she does reject you, your gonna die

hm yep thats what i said to but as a spoiler


and as for the shaking hands thing, she might think you have a disease of some sort
so sit on your hands when you talk to her hahaha

WHAT?

OMG OMG OMG OMG OMG I TOLD HER :) :) :)

her reaction was MUCH better than i could of expected. on lunch time i told her we could talk without too much ppl bothring us on the stairs near the auditoriom. we talked for a bit and she inquired on whant i wanted to talk to her about that was important. my heart rate went from 90 to 200. this is it. i said that it was a rather delicate matter. i told her that this was something i had been thinkin for a long time... i walked nervously in a tight circle, the turned arout and i said that i wanted to tell her that i liked her. she was glad that i had told her the trouth, but she apolagised to me because.. the pooor thing... didnt have time for a life watsoever. she is still my good friend. thank god. i hope that when her scedule untightens a bit we could start hangin out.... im sad for her... but i admire her for her maturity, her kindness. i dont deserve someone as wonderful as her..... shes tryin so hard to do evrything right... she succeeding but it must be so hard for her... everyone is not makin it easy for her either.... damn shes a strong girl....

cheers&#33;

Well that good shade. I wish when i told a girl that i liked her it came out like that. but it didnt. o well. but good job. But doesnt it feal good to get it off though.

:lol: I just looked at your profile and realized that im 5 days older than you. (if your profile is right :shifty:) yah my birthday is march 25 1990. sorry for the off topic thingy.

haha no prob

it feels as tho all my stress is gone.... im sooooooooo releyved... * exhales deeply*

finally you&#39;ve listened to my advice dude&#33; ^_^ There, it&#39;s not so bad. Great job&#33;

i wish that at my school there were girls that i could accually like. But at my school there is no one that really apealls too me. I mean there was only two girls that i have liked at my school. i dont really know where to go to find girls that i like. one of the girls that i liked didnt go out with me and another i just stoped liking her for some reason. GOT ANY TIPS FOR WHAT TO DO?

here is my tip : at luch or recess, walk a few times around the shcool a few times and if a gal catches ur eye, invstigate, say hi ect.

socialise more is the obvious solution. Join clubs that you have interests in so that you have something in common. Do more stuff outside school. If you play an instrument, join an orchestra. That&#39;s the easy way anyway unless you want to chat up a stranger on the street..... :whistle:

You can&#39;t force yourself to like someone though. You&#39;ll find a girl eventually. The above is just a way of meeting more people and increasing your chances of finding someone.

well yah i do a lot of things after school. But nothing works. i play the violin and im in orchestra. But MY SCHOOL SUCKS..(wasnt supposed to say that woops. but yah) They dont let us walk around during lunch and we dont have recess.

I meant outside school like a local youth orchestra or something.

o theres a thing called select orchestra here and i joined if for a little. but the same people from my school go to that no one new. ARRRRRG

You could try being less picky about who you fancy. It helps. Well if there is anybody from other schools there, then try to expand your friend network through them. Nightclubs have a lot of people. Make friends with your mates&#39; friends - girls and boys. They must have friends out of school apart from the ones in school.

oh god, badgerblue, you have the EXACT SAME problem as me. But I think I know what our problem is: super high standards XD

EDIT for grammatic error =.=;;

I can try but i really dont know how.

You could always wait until you graduate into university/college... Way more people there, way more choices, and less chance of meeting "playerish" or "sluttish" characters, since everyone there are hopefully more educated :D
Heehee, my first crush was when I was something like 5 years old on a classmate O_O I still remember it 11 years later (now).

:lol: I CANT WAIT TILL COLLEGE. I want one now

<--- Trying to refrain from clapping...not succeeding

Ok I know this is REALLY late but:

YAY SHADE&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33; :woohoo:

lol im late too... WOOT GO SHADE&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;

what do you mean you dont deserve her?? you deserve the best&#33;&#33;&#33;
sorry to hear about how she cant exactly do much right now. but its great that she took it maturly&#33;&#33;&#33; ^^
wow, see&#33;&#33; its not soo bad eh. now, its just the last few flellas here that are still too chickin XD (but hopefully i have time to talk to her this saturday =D)

woot go shade&#33;&#33;&#33;

yah good job shade.

Originally posted by hell_xtremedawg@May 10 2005, 11:14 PM
But I think I know what our problem is: super high standards XD


If you have high standards and you don&#39;t think you are that high a standard, then you better grow up and face reality. No offence intended though. I just find it really dumb that you should expect something good for something not so good. Hope you both find someone. Peace out. If it&#39;s any consolation my school is a single-sex school...

Show spoiler (javascript:void(0);)<span style="display: none;" id="QUOTE"> But I still know a lot of girls. You just got to find them :P </span>

:) I know my standards are too high, but I don&#39;t care because I don&#39;t want a girlfriend right now (too much distraction and too much hassle right now). Of course, if a girl of my "standards" appears, :P :P :P *gets rejected*

I&#39;m gonna lower my standards after I get into university.

im just the opposite. i really want a gf.

I don&#39;t want a girlfriend right now

Same for me (except with a boyfriend :heh: ). I really don&#39;t see the need for a boyfriend....I wont be having sex until im married,I have WAY too much to worry about I dont need some guy stressing me out, and If i ever needed compassion or something of that sort, i have great friends that are willing to give...So yeah. I agree ^_^

damn my headaches... DAMN THEM&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33; to think i missed today&#39;s school... agrrr... its not that i love school or somethin, its just my pretty one said she would bring cup soup ramen so i can see what its like... (im ashamed that i never tasted ramen....) and i couldnt come&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33; (_ _) i hope she still has it so we can have lunch together tomorrow....

WHOA&#33;&#33;&#33; you havent had ramen?? i havent either&#33;&#33;&#33; that makes two of us... (oh wait, i had ramen with des over msn XD)

(oh wait, i had ramen with des over msn)

lol shui (btw from here on i will start calling you "shoe" XD) for some reason, I dont think that counts. :lol:


i hope she still has it so we can have lunch together tomorrow....

did she, did she? I beleive it&#39;s been 24 hours....

Originally posted by Fob@May 12 2005, 01:00 AM
If i ever needed compassion or something of that sort, i have great friends that are willing to give...So yeah. I agree ^_^
i feel that there&#39;s alot of compassion you can only get through a partner that you cant get out of friends. to be able to just spend ages in each others arms is not something you can do with friends. I am not in as much of a rush to get a girlfriend anymore since what my ex did to me but i would still like to regain those feelings and experience i had. there&#39;s a certain feel of nostalgia that is quite pleasant

Originally posted by shade@May 12 2005, 10:40 PM
ramen
Noodles. We&#39;re not in Japan.

there&#39;s alot of compassion you can only get through a partner that you cant get out of friends

Yeah I thought there&#39;d be a difference.... (not that Id&#39; know&#33;&#33; :cry: ::composes herself:: )


I am not in as much of a rush to get a girlfriend anymore since what my ex did to me but i would still like to regain those feelings and experience i had.


Aww Sephie... :comfort:

about the ramen lunch with my pretty one, HER DAD ATE THEM FOR SUPPER THE NIGHT BEFORE&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33; *sobs* *sobs* and i had brough my cute bowls and matching chopsticks.... *sobs* *sobs* this really isnt my week.... *sobs*

aww... cheer up *hugs*

thanks thorn :polish: . im better now. hmmm.... wednesday i can hang out with her and her friends after her workout... hmmm... things arnt so down after all. thanks ppl&#33;

Originally posted by shade@May 14 2005, 03:50 AM
about the ramen lunch with my pretty one, HER DAD ATE THEM FOR SUPPER THE NIGHT BEFORE&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33; *sobs* *sobs* and i had brough my cute bowls and matching chopsticks.... *sobs* *sobs* this really isnt my week.... *sobs*
aww thats ok... there is lots of other things you can eat =D

quick update... umm, saturday, i didn get any chances to talk to her just yet... =( she said that she will be busy for the next month or so... so its going to have to wait =/

having a girlfriend wouldnt realy suit me right now, id change my mind if i found the right person, but the freedom is much more fun...took me three relationships to work that out

ok updates&#33; How&#39;s everyone and their crushes?

i have a crush on someone....but he doesnt know it....i think :think:

aw&#33; Is he a friend? Or a classmate...or? lol im bad at guessing

in fact...ive never met him before...ie in RL......:heh:

Hmm you should be careful with internet relationships DM. If you&#39;re gonna meet him then you should bring someone along just in case cos you never know if they say who they are. :ph34r:

its just a crush....i never said about starting a relationship&#33;&#33;&#33; XD

if its you DM im sure they like you to, lol

as An-kun says if ya gunna meet, have an acompliss

*advice taken*

will do&#33;&#33; ^_^

That acomplice would be....(dramatic pause) ME&#33; :hunter: lol Just kidding I wish I could go tho&#33; If he tried anything funny I&#39;d get to do my self defense moves on him (the ones I can&#39;t get to work XD)

XDXDXD

see....this is what i mean by you crack me up all the time&#33;&#33;&#33;

*todays personal crush updates*

i wuv her more today than yesterday, and ill wuv more tomorrow than today&#33;


(im pathetic, i know.... -.- )

It&#39;s not pathetic&#33;&#33; It&#39;s cute&#33; ^_^ Go shade&#33;

Originally posted by DarkMagician@May 28 2005, 07:58 PM
its just a crush....i never said about starting a relationship&#33;&#33;&#33; XD
I thought crushes generally inplied you would like to start a relationship with them? Oh well, what do I know. :heh: Just be careful whoever the guy is. Last thing we want to hear is you getting hurt by a stranger.

@shade :- there&#39;s nothing wrong with loving someone as long as it doesn&#39;t rule your life too much to the point of obsession.

@shade :- there&#39;s nothing wrong with loving someone as long as it doesn&#39;t rule your life too much to the point of obsession.

i agree

dont worry&#33; im not obsessed, even if it may look like it, theres a diference with deeeeep deeeep feelings, and stalking someone. i think about her, everyday, but i dont have a billion pictures on my wall that i took without her knowing (invasion of privacy) i dont stalk ppl.

Your situation seems familiar to me.........
But I guess it&#39;s normal humanity.

//D

i found another girl that i kinda like and she just broke up with a boy that cheated on her? Should i ask her out or wait till things cool off?

depends on the kind of girl she is. Is she the kind of girl that can&#39;t go a week without being in a relationship? or is she the kind that makes a big deal oout of each relationship she&#39;s in?

If you enter a relationship with a gnawing emptiness inside you, chances are that&#39;s what you&#39;ll be bringing into the relationship.

Think about how she feels right now.

Nobody likes to be embarassed. If your profile age is accurate, I shall make the assumption that the girl is about your age. If she has only recently broke up, and got into another relationship, what would other people think? And how would she feel once those harsh words reaches her ears?

"Screw them, I only care about us." If both of you are capable of doing so, by all means do proceed. Do you like her enough to not care, or do you like her enough to not let her come to harm?

That said, I would still recommend that you go for it. Some lessons are best learnt in person.

well, i dont really know. All i know is that shes nice and really cool. My friend was the one that told me that her boyfriend cheated on her. He thinks i should ask her out but i dont know. If it helps any she told a hoodie that he gave to her and cut off the arm of the hoodie and burned everything except the arm and took pictures of it and put the arm and the pictures in his locker.

Wow. Fiery girl. My first thought is to tell you to stay away from her, lest you get burnt.

Seriously, if she is really capable of such behaviour, how would you feel if her agression was directed towards you?

That said, I still say you should go for it. XP

Wow. Fiery girl. My first thought is to tell you to stay away from her, lest you get burnt.
:blink: my thoughts exactly.

Give her awhile if you still want to go ahead with it. If you ask her now (and this is just the feeling I got from reading your post...I&#39;m sorry if it&#39;s completely wrong) she might use you as "revenge"....So yeah let her cool down a bit first.

Yeah, that&#39;d be my advice too.

... the only risk is that if she doesn&#39;t need to "cool down", and doesn&#39;t know you like her... she might get together with someone else while you&#39;re waiting.

k thanks for the advice guys

Um ok...haven&#39;t been on lately but I think you&#39;re all wrong.

NEVER ask a girl out straight after a break-up. Emotional stress spoils the relationship. She sounds like she&#39;d rant on about her ex if she went out with you and then go all stroppy and sad thinking about how much she liked him after-all. If you go out with her, the relationship might just be getting over her emotions. Wait for a while before embarking on asking. That way she can&#39;t go on about asking her while she&#39;s vulnerable if she wants to break up. Plus it might be cruel to ask her cos she might think all guys cheat or something.

I&#39;ve just been pranked by some girl saying she fancied me......... and I thought it was well amusing ^_^ Had the feeling that something was wrong but I haven&#39;t had that much fun guessing who the mystery girl was in a long time&#33; I think most guys would be pissed off if that happened to them though. My friend said it was harsh of her to do it, but everythings fine. Just giving advice to you guys if you ever happen to be on the receiving end of it. Don&#39;t take stuff seriously all the time because you never know how much girls can be cruel to you. Peace out B)

Oh, I bow to your wisdom. Of course we&#39;re all utterly and completely wrong.

Pshaw, not everyone learn their lessons by reciting from the textbook. That&#39;s why we have practicals. Is it better to have a moment of pain in exchange for a lifetime of clarity, or would you rather have a lifetime of doubt and suspicion?

And with boys and relationships, how many of us can claim to have listened, believed, and practised everything we were told by our wiser and well-meaning seniors/friends/parents/etc?

@badgerglue: If you do believe in the advices, then there&#39;s nothing else I can say, as other people can and will give you good and solid advice.

But if there is a doubt squirming in the crevices of your heart and mind, and if it does seem that no amount of talk can convince you otherwise . . . steel your mind and try. Hopefully you might just prove the advice wrong, but I&#39;d be more cynical and pray that you will learn and grow.

:o Look, I didn&#39;t say I was wise. I THOUGHT that some advice was wrong. Not saying that you are. Okay so maybe I was wrong. Sorry&#33; :unsure:


And with boys and relationships, how many of us can claim to have listened, believed, and practised everything we were told by our wiser and well-meaning seniors/friends/parents/etc?

Ok. Times have changed. This is more modern advice I&#39;m trying to give rather than textbook stuff. I&#39;ve never learnt anything from anyone but myself. This is stuff I&#39;ve been through mate. I&#39;m not just some guy who thinks he knows a lot. I know I don&#39;t know everything. As you say it&#39;s better to make your own decisions and mistakes. I&#39;d prefer it if he proves me wrong. Sorry if I&#39;m full of flaws&#33; <_<

I thought you were more mature than that red stone. I really didn&#39;t expect you to come up with something that insulting&#33;

Oh I bow down to your wisdom oh great one. I better shut my big fat mouth then&#33;

@badgerglue: trust your instincts. You&#39;ll know what to do.

My opinions aren&#39;t wanted here so I won&#39;t be posting in this thread anymore. Bye guys.

your opinans are wanted. Thats basicly what forems are about and your a member of this forem. Red stone was the only one that said that we didnt.

You could at least drop the hint that you are interested... if you wait too long someone else might pick her up.

That&#39;s what I meant...

Times have changed. This is more modern advice I&#39;m trying to give rather than textbook stuff. I&#39;ve never learnt anything from anyone but myself.This "modern advice" you&#39;re trying to give is not so different from "textbook stuff*". Maybe it&#39;s because I&#39;ve read more "textbooks", seeing as you learnt everything by youirself.


This is stuff I&#39;ve been through mate. I&#39;m not just some guy who thinks he knows a lot.And you can safely bet any organs of yours that I have been through this as well. And I&#39;m not some guy who "think he knows a lot" - everyone has their own code of conduct/ rules of play.


I don&#39;t know everything. As you say it&#39;s better to make your own decisions and mistakes. I&#39;d prefer it if he proves me wrong. Sorry if I&#39;m full of flaws&#33; <_<Thank you. As I said, I&#39;d prefer if he proves me wrong as well. And even if you do happen do be full of flaws there&#39;s no need to apologise to me.


I thought you were more mature than that red stone. I really didn&#39;t expect you to come up with something that insulting&#33;Please do not be so naive to assume that you can deduce someone else&#39;s maturity from internet forum posts, of all things.

Mature people seldom let posts on internet forums bother them.


Oh I bow down to your wisdom oh great one. I better shut my big fat mouth then&#33;As you please.


My opinions aren&#39;t wanted here so I won&#39;t be posting in this thread anymore. Bye guys. I&#39;m amazed how you arrived at this conclusion. You yourself disagreed with my and other people&#39;s opinions ("but I think you&#39;re all wrong"). In what way does disagreeing with someone else&#39;s opinions mean not wanting someone else&#39;s opinions? Yes, I&#39;ve been so severely rebuked by a post on an internet forum that I shall now go to a corner and sulk to myself. Grow up.

Originally posted by Red Stone@May 30 2005, 08:18 AM
Yes, I&#39;ve been so severely rebuked by a post on an internet forum that I shall now go to a corner and sulk to myself. Grow up.
Answer:-


Mature people seldom let posts on internet forums bother them.

If you don&#39;t want to accept my apology then I can&#39;t say anything else. -_-

i have this crush on this guy...i think he likes me but i am not sure...=( i really want to ask him out but i&#39;m scared of being rejected and then humiliated....

Do as we said to Badgerglue. Give her (in your case: him) a hint that you&#39;re interested. You don&#39;t need to confront him directly, if you&#39;re afraid of being humiliated.

Do as we said to Badgerglue. Give her (in your case: him) a hint that you&#39;re interested. You don&#39;t need to confront him directly, if you&#39;re afraid of being humiliated.

im confused. Are u talking to shinzuno or me?

Well.. if I said "Do as we said to Badgerglue" I wouldn&#39;t be talking to you, would I? ;)

I was talking to Shinzuno...

(@bg)By the way... It&#39;d be fun to know the progress. How&#39;s it going? :lol:

//D

good. we have a couple classes together so we can talk to each other. but the only problem with your guys plan is that we only have 4 days left of school so im not going to see her all summer.

make fast friends then ask her for her number reasoning being: you wanna keep in touch. Would that work?

i guess i don&#39;t know. i could look in the phone book

Originally posted by badgerglue@May 31 2005, 05:13 PM
good. we have a couple classes together so we can talk to each other. but the only problem with your guys plan is that we only have 4 days left of school so im not going to see her all summer.
You&#39;ve got 4 days to get her number&#33; Go for it, man&#33;

Phone book thing never works, almost everyone is unlisted these days... I agree with Fob on the "keep in touch" thing, maybe offer to hang out sometime. Do you have yearbooks? That&#39;s a *really* easy way to get numbers&#33; :lol:

Anyway, you&#39;ve got nothing to lose by asking. Go for it&#33;

ok but with the year book thing we do get them but they dont have #&#39;s in it.

I think what Gand meant is to have her sign it. She&#39;d probably put her number in. Or you could sign hers then put your number in.

Does she have MSN? Or ICQ? Or you could just ask for her e-mail... if she&#39;s got one, that is.

Originally posted by Fob@Jun 1 2005, 11:17 AM
I think what Gand meant is to have her sign it. She&#39;d probably put her number in. Or you could sign hers then put your number in.
Right. Don&#39;t pass it up though&#33;

Originally posted by Don Vercetti@Jun 1 2005, 09:22 PM
Does she have MSN? Or ICQ? Or you could just ask for her e-mail... if she&#39;s got one, that is.
Don&#39;t ask for those. Asking for the phone number is the key.

That&#39;s really straightforward though... I wouldn&#39;t dare to do that.

//D

She&#39;ll rate you for it though.

rate?

yeah, of course... but it&#39;s kinda the same thing as walking up to her and saying "Hey, I like you. Can we keep in touch?"

some people have the guts to do it... others don&#39;t...

and thats the difference between a winner and a loser&#33; (not trying to offence you hun&#33;...just stating the fact&#33;)

i wounder if im a winner or a looser

ank is really trying to find out who this crush of mine is....XD its quite funny&#33;

@PFT....that&#39;ll depends on what the thing is&#33;

im a loser (_ _)

same here i guess

::Hugs Hubby and Shoe:: You guys are winners in my book&#33;&#33;


ank is really trying to find out who this crush of mine is.... its quite funny&#33;

haha good luck to him....I tried so hard and got so far but in the end...ok I&#39;ll stop :lol:

I have a crush on someone&#33;&#33;&#33; Yippers&#33;&#33; ::basks in the glory/shame of having a crush:: :D

i just found out today that my crush is going out with someone...looks like i was one step too late...

:comfort: aww . . but things always have a way of working out, don&#39;t worry =T

@ Fob: there is only glory (not shame) in having a crush =P