can anyone suggest what to do to get my problems of my mind?

my parents just got seperated and are getting divorced, and my dad is to blame, i see him with other women, my mother cried herself to sleep, throws things, hasnt eaten, and hasnt slept in the last four days.....

please, if you have any advice, i need, it, i just dont trust psycologists

Umm why? They are trained profesionals, but if you don't want to talk to them maybe you should talk to your GP or school counsellor, or another adult that you trust, this place isn't somewhere you could actually get reliable advice, so maybe you should look else where, like a help line, but not the internet.

Well you should trust psychologists and whatever.

These things happen. Don't try and get the problem out of your mind, you need to face it. Sorry, that's all I can really say.

have you tried talking to your mom?

of course i have, and i know the internet isnt reliable, but i really dont trust adults to understand me, in my experience (pretty extensive) people at or around the same age as me understand better, and the friend i told, through it in my face in an argument, so i just need some tips on getiing this issue behind me, from people who have been in a similar situation

ohh, so this is why ure life is hell...
Although i havn't been in the situation, my cousin has. I guess when his dad left them, his mum would talk to her other friends about the situation, and try not to be alone in the house; because thats when she would rememebr how it was before. Basically dont try face the situation by ureselves

And about how ure friend use ure problems against you. Try not to hold it against him/her; at times when uve got problems and can't turn to adults, u need ure friends around u, and hopefully it was just the spur of the moment that made ure friend say that. cus in my case i said to my cousin; in an arguement, that "At least i still have my dad". I totally regreted it after i said it, and although i tried to apologise, he never listened to me. So if u want to get back with ure friend, then u need to let them know that ure willing to forgive aswel.

Well thats all i've got to offer, hope it helps u out... i reli do talk a lot..

Um the only thing I can say is that adults are just older teenagers really. They are still irresponsible. I don't think you can do anything about your dad except just accept him for what he does. Maybe you can talk to him about how hurt your mum is. You could help your mum around the house and try and take the fatherly role in his stead for the time being. I think you have to tell her that you're affected by the situation as well. Let your mum know that her being troubled is affecting you as well and that you can both try and get through together. I dunno how useful my advice is. I think you need a counsellor rather than a psychologist to help you properly to offer you guidance.

thanks guys, im ending this thread now, not that i know how, im just gonna stop posting on this thread, because ive figured my life out, so, ill keep my problems off forums