There's this guy I really like, and I'm pretty sure he likes me back, but I'm really scared to tell him I like him, in case he doesn't. Is there a way that I can tell him without sounding like an idiot from nervousness? We talk online a lot, so I figured it would be easier and less pressuring to tell him on IM... Please help if you can....:(

*remembers a thread like this earlier*

Asking someone to go steady should be done in person. If you don't, it leaves a bad impression.

My best suggestion: Just spit it out. Half the battle in pre-relationships is embarrassment and fear. Go about your day normally and stick a confession in when you feel it would fit.

Hmm, first of all this is the wrong section for this I think.

http://forums.ichigos.com/forumdisplay.php?f=17 -- is the place you need to put this. (Mods will prolly move anyway or something).

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But and answer to your question. Just ask him. Just be blunt with it, or try to be obvious. Trust me, with girls I've been so passive and never giving out hints in which I live in a lament time period with, which I am starting to get over as I get more social.

If something turns out and you guys don't hook up, you'll feel better than if you didn't and you just drift apart--it hurts more than not even getting started and then knowing it won't work out.

And yeah, get ready for heartbreak if you do hook up--there's always a posibility.

1. sorry for posting this in the wrong area :heh:
2. Thanks. I'll prepare myself mentally beforehand in case it doesn't work out.

good luck! i say go with being casual and just tellin him. have fun!

There's this guy I really like, and I'm pretty sure he likes me back, but I'm really scared to tell him I like him, in case he doesn't. Is there a way that I can tell him without sounding like an idiot from nervousness? We talk online a lot, so I figured it would be easier and less pressuring to tell him on IM... Please help if you can....:(


well you could always give him STRONG signs that you liked him..

Honestly if other guys are like me, then we men are straight up stupid and thick.
If you want him to know, the best approach (IMHO) would be flat out telling him, however don't over do it...(just in case)

Then all you can do is hope for the best :)

G'luck!

Remember to tell us the results! Good luck!

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Walk up to them and say the first thing that comes to mind. It works.

I don't know about that Jaso... It'd be like "What the %$@ am I doing here"

It works

heh, from personal experience, I can certainly say that Jaso's method doesn't work...ever

Yeah...

First thing that comes in you mind...........:huh:

NO WAY !

I don't know if this is gonna help you get stonger and more secure, but...


- Try to keep eye contact.
- Try not to mumble the line into your shoes, or saying it so quick that you're obliged to repeat yourself because he didn't quite catch it.
- It's a good idea to know roughly what you're going to say and when, but don't make it a military manouevre. Let a little spontaneity rule the moment.
- Keep an open mind about his response.

If they look to their left when they say something they are being truthful. If they even fractionally look to their right (usually your left... 0_0) then they lie... And if you look into their pupils as they do at your, and her/(his) eyes dilate... they like you too.

I said the first thing that came into my head with my first true friend. Okay, so she didn't go out with me in the end, but she was the best friend I ever had... :(.

so what if the first thing on your mind is um.. :devil:

so you'd go up an say.. wanna f***?

well... if that is what is first on your mind and she doesn't like that then maybe you shouldn't be together. Think about it: You are going to have to show her what you are really like eventually so you should NEVER lie about yourself. ALWAYS BE THE REAL YOU!!!

lol, what i didn't mean bad intension to what i said.. i'm just trying to say that it's not always full proof.. as to girls(in general) wants something more romantic stuff to happend

Mhm and not many people can make up romantic things on the spot. I think that really weird movie hitch showed that some organization or preparedness gives people the chance to show their true selves because otherwise they'd be rejected outright.
In most cases, the thing to say, is the qualities you see in them that are admirable, and the things you accept about them and why you would put yourself in a vulnerable position for them. because if you're at that point and you can't tell that person how you arrived there, you're asking for a larger gamble.

so what if the first thing on your mind is um.. :devil:

so you'd go up an say.. wanna f***?

HAHAHAHAHA hey people do say that often.:lol:

If they look to their left when they say something they are being truthful. If they even fractionally look to their right (usually your left... 0_0) then they lie... And if you look into their pupils as they do at your, and her/(his) eyes dilate... they like you too.

and may i ask where did you get this from?

EDIT: and saying the first thing comming to mind will never work. at best, you'll just feel extremely stupid after. worst, you get slapped and she never talks to you again.
Always know what you want to say. the advice "think before saying anything" is very useful

Those are standard interrogation techniques to determine a persons mentality on a subject though body language.

Similarly if you scratch a certain area of your body uncontentiously once every three minutes, it means that the scratching area is a prosthetic; increased rate of blinking shows either uncertainty in a topic or a loss of self confidence in the discussion; checking your socking height means you're nervous; covering your mouth partially with your non-writing hand means you're lying; a slightly tilted head to the right means they are not listening to their fullest; et cetera...

Though those methods tend to be inaccurate at times. If the person even has the slightest suspicion that their body movements are being read, the entire mapping is lost.

Those are standard interrogation techniques to determine a persons mentality on a subject though body language.

Similarly if you scratch a certain area of your body uncontentiously once every three minutes, it means that the scratching area is a prosthetic; increased rate of blinking shows either uncertainty in a topic or a loss of self confidence in the discussion; checking your socking height means you're nervous; covering your mouth partially with your non-writing hand means you're lying; a slightly tilted head to the right means they are not listening to their fullest; et cetera...

Though those methods tend to be inaccurate at times. If the person even has the slightest suspicion that their body movements are being read, the entire mapping is lost.

M -.-;
Listen it shouldn't matter what they are thinking or if they're listening. Telling them is the hard part, and it's something for you more than it is them, unless you have some greater purpose in speaking up. Like protecting them or something. So don't analyze their reaction and don'tmanipulate them, just say what you want to say and hope for the best, and in some situations be prepared to run XD

Unless you are just looking for some side-sex... then you are in trouble...

I'm not saying Jaso's method is right (because it isn't), just providing Leonheart with some background on Jaso's comment.

XD okay :P still...
And Jaso not everyone is so... pure?