How do guys feel about matchmaking? Good or bad? Helpful or pointless?

In my opinion, love should be shared with someone you meet naturally, coincidentally, and unconditionally. ^_^ Take most animes for example. The main characters leads a certain life in the story, meets a random but cool person, they both talk & hang out with each other alot, soon they feel quite comfortable with each other's style, then they fall for each other. :wub: (Haruhi x Kyon, Araragi x Senjougahara, Tomoya x Nagisa.) Matchmaking only drives the first statement up the wall, so I can't really agree with matchmaking services. :( However, I can agree with friends trying to matchmake each other, because that's part of social networking, which is something natrual. :)

Matchmaking has it's advantages and disadvantages. Firstly, it's always a 50-50 chance. Like cryskolt says, it has to be a natural thing, not something staged.

That's just my opinion.

I meets a random but cool person, they both talk & hang out with each other alot, soon they feel quite comfortable with each other's style...)

*gets up on stage with a mic in hand*

CAN YOU HANDLE MY STYYYYYYYYYLLLLLLEEEEEEE?!!??!/1//!??!1/ 8D

but seriously on the topic, methinks its the lazy-person's job for matchmaking

by ticking in a few boxes or writing a paragraph then generating results served on a platter :|

it must be natural gundammit~! *slams hands on desk in a phoenix wright fashion*

I rest my case. -_-

I'm a person that believes that love is something that doesn't sprout up naturally (that's called lust; regardless of perceived intentions), but is rather something gained through a length of time. In other words, love is learned, not experienced.

Thus, I support match making quite a bit. At the minimum, it's better than arbitrarily walking up to a stranger and being like "Hey there sweetie, care to join me".

My cousin actually met her husband over a match making site. So far she's been married 10 years. Considering that most relationships start with a similar interest eg. sports, hobbies, music etc; and matching making services work by linking similar interests, they're actually a fair starting point. Of course there's more to it then that, but I side with M on this. I too believe that love is something learned and created rather then something that "just happens". If people were to wait for something to "just happen", we'd be waiting a fair while; and it'd be a fair chance nothing would actually happen. Why? Because no-ones gonna do anything. People still need to take initiative, and by taking part in match making they're putting forward along with other people who want to find "that one".

Now, it may be quite direct, but if you don't like the people that do the same stuff you like to do; you're not gonna wander around the streets or take up something you don't like to find someone now are you?

I am indifferent to matchmaking but in my personal opinion I'd rather get to know someone via circle of friends/random encounters than coming into the relationship knowing that the other person is also looking for the same thing. In short, I want the first common denominator to be something other than "seeking for companionship".

I won't isolate myself from matchmaking, since matchmaking itself has integrated with normal social activities, and I'd rather give it a chance than being ignorant.

I'm glad you guys answered. I fancy myself an amateur matchmaker and i was wondering if i was generally pissing people off or actually making a positive difference.

As long as you don't poke your nose into people's businesses more than you should, it's helpful. The point is to give two people the chance to spend time in each other's company when they normally wouldn't.

But some people take it too far. They think it's their divine duty to bring people together. To them, other people's love is nothing more than a game, nothing but a source of entertainment.

It's okay, I guess. I think it's awkward when a third person tries "setting up" two other people though.

Pssst, from now on if I want to matchmake, I use Ichigos. ;)

Matchmaker, Matchmaker, Make me a match
Find me a find, catch me a catch

The matchmaker answers!!

What type of wonderful wonders of a person's personality are you looking for as a looker, oh extreme X?

Lol, just fooling around. :P

As long as you're not talking about those annoying advertisements, I guess matchmaking is OK... after all, it's their choice whether they want it or not...

Matchmaker, Matchmaker, Make me a match
Find me a find, catch me a catch

Firsat time i said i was a matchmaker to someone thats the answer i got back.

The real challenge is a matcher's quality, which is based on how many clientèle they have and the number of successful pairings. Nobody wants a matcher whom has no experience or has been contentiously unsuccessful.

I can't tell you how many times I've went into meetings to realize that they didn't do enough research on both the second party and myself.

I can't tell you how many times I've went into meetings to realize that they didn't do enough research on both the second party and myself.
You seem like the last type of person who would use a matchmaker to me. = \

As long as you're not talking about those annoying advertisements, I guess matchmaking is OK... after all, it's their choice whether they want it or not...


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Tee Hee.

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Tee Hee.

LOL! :lol: Haha, I almost spilled a drink onto myself when I saw this! XD

LOL THAT IS NOT MATCHMAKING

...Evony was a ripoff of travian

LOL at matchmaking. If it's one of those things that pair two people together based on 20 scientifically proven areas of personality and love, tell me again why it's impossible to completely box people up within labels. Yeah, you can get basic stuff down like interests and goals and so on, but you can find someone you might have interests in, in real life by going about and doing things. If you must use some matchmaking service, it just shows you have some inability for social communication or contact, or don't have the galls to talk to people (which isn't a bad thing, it's just who you are. And then if you fall in love online then you both are probably socially awkward.)

If it's matchmaking like Fiddler on the Roof matchmaking or 'traditionalist Muslim' matchmaking, it is just stupid. Assuming everyone lives in a developed nation, in a developed area, there really isn't a need for a couple to be put together based on familial or economic interests; love and a relationship should be the foremost important thing, and you can't teach someone to love someone, because then that's saying you can teach a heterosexual to love someone of the same sex (not going to happen).