I thought it might not be so bad to have a thread to talk about your friends, whether they are funny, troubled, arrogant, worthy, stupid... you know talk about what they did and how they did that one time.

Maybe this thread shouldn't even exist:think:

Welp, that being said, the reason why created this thread is because I used to have a lot of friends. And I mean 13 strong. But one day everything went to poop, at least my end, to put it lightly. Anyway that's a story for another time. Sorry! But right now I have a friend who recently told me that he's taking some anti-depressant pills. Now I don't know whether it's that big of a deal to be on an anti depressant, but he sure is making a big deal out of it. Well, I'm his friend and I told him that I wanted to try one of these pills to see what it's like. That's when all hell broke lose. He then went ahead and told me about how his days are gloomy and not worth living. I want to help this guy. I didn't take the pill if that's what you're wondering, though I don't see why it's such a big friggin' deal. I should take him seriously, but I never saw him as depressed guy. I don't know if he's bs-ing me or being serious. Well... that's just my problem at the moment. It's hard to talk about this thing with the people he may know, and I needed to take that off my chest because he told me not to tell anyone.

REAL MEN DON'T KEEP FRIENDS; ONLY PAWNS.

REAL MEN DON'T KEEP FRIENDS; ONLY PAWNS.
I agree and disagree! >=)

While I don't have a lot of friends, mainly acquaintances, I DO have a few who I would

open for bros:
sacrifice a left nut for, take a punch for, have his back, etc.
open for females:
make sure that she never sheds a tear, and if she sheds a tear because of someone, the consequences will never be the same

For most acquaintances, I generally (sadly) maintain a "you use me, I use you" relationship. So I agree on that end :D
I only have a few who I would confidently say I entrust my life with.

Now as for Ander,
Just be for your friend as much as you can. He might be feeling the weight of some nasty stress. I can't really relate, but since you mentioned that he felt that his life is gloomy and not worth living, I think, as a friend, that you should show him that it's worth living. I don't know how, but that's where friendship comes into play.

Welp, that being said, the reason why created this thread is because I used to have a lot of friends. And I mean 13 strong. But one day everything went to poop, at least my end, to put it lightly. Anyway that's a story for another time. Sorry! But right now I have a friend who recently told me that he's taking some anti-depressant pills. Now I don't know whether it's that big of a deal to be on an anti depressant, but he sure is making a big deal out of it. Well, I'm his friend and I told him that I wanted to try one of these pills to see what it's like. That's when all hell broke lose. He then went ahead and told me about how his days are gloomy and not worth living. I want to help this guy. I didn't take the pill if that's what you're wondering, though I don't see why it's such a big friggin' deal. I should take him seriously, but I never saw him as depressed guy. I don't know if he's bs-ing me or being serious. Well... that's just my problem at the moment. It's hard to talk about this thing with the people he may know, and I needed to take that off my chest because he told me not to tell anyone.

Everybody will lose a couple of their friends when they go on later in life. It's a depressing fact, but not many people's life is built around some fantasy RPG where their friends will always remain with them till the final boss and beyond. As you age and mature, you'll see how life didn't turn out as great as expected. Everybody will have their fair share of problems to consider, and they will most likely leave their friends, or distance themselves because of these problems. It's a common trend with university graduates/undergraduates.

About the anti-depressant pill, no big deal about the pills alone, but the fact that he's under that medication is a big deal. It shows how much he's been suffering under his negative blanket of thoughts. He's feeling suicidal. He might be bullshitting you and trying to be an attention whore, but it's a safer bet to believe him for now. You have to remind him that there's still hope for him if he continues pushing through despite all the difficulties he's been having. Ask him to go see a therapist if it gets worrying. Tell him to reflect quietly and think about what he wants to do in the future from this point. If he's Christian, you can remind him that it's wrong to take lives, including his own. Yeah, that's all I have for now.

I'll keep my friends forever even though they may not know it.

I m sad all the time because I have no good friends. The group of people I hang with are nice, but they are all best friends and I just kind of come along. And everybody else is in my school is bed . Last year I was in the "popular " group, but they ignore me, so I stood up for me and you have these two girls who seemed really nice but I happened again and now no really good best friends over. The fear this will happen again, and I hate everyone in my school. All anyone cares about looks, and although many people tell me, in the beautiful no one wants to still be friends with me. I dont care about looks of other people as friends but also everyone else and no one wants to be friends. In very nice, but the problem is that either the people are snobs, or they already maintain a best friend and not let anyone in and I do not want to be friends with them. What should I do?

I've had this little thought going around in my head. I just have the feeling that humans will only do something if they need it, in order to obtain happiness (the "building blocks of human-life" as I like to say). Anyway, this theory applies to the realm of friends. As humans, we want to obtain happiness, one way of doing so is associating ourselves with people that compliment our attitude or likes, whatever that may be.

So everyone is just using their friends, when you get down to it. *pokerface*

Yet, it doesn't really "feel" like we're using people, are we? Funny little race we are.

Oops.

Friends... That's pretty tough to say... When I have friends, many of them simply from band (uh... duh. I'm a band nerd, but minus the glasses and petty looks. o_O) But when I have friends outside of my band life, it's really difficult. I become really shy, shut my mouth, and I only have a small number of friends that I can at least talk to normally without having to "be the polite person I have to be." Other people simply use me to do things... Throw things away for them, let them copy off my homework, telling them what the heck is on the upcoming test, lending them things, etc.

In other words, friends are pretty hard to get... the good friends, I mean.

I agree with having good friends around you is difficult. My grandmother tells me all the time that I am who I attract, so if I attract bad people I am a bad person myself. I'm sure there's more to it than that... I personally believe it's the core value of the friendship that keeps it strong. The simplest step of the law of attraction is the mental one. If your friend cannot handle the fact that you have more money than him or her, then it makes you uncomfortable... There are things that you own that others may find envious, and if you feel uncomfortable about that, then that's already a problem, whereas if you don't find it awkward, then it's only that person who's kicking himself or herself in the butt.

I also lived in Korea and their belief in friendship is somewhat different from here.... and I, myself, am still in the process of distinguishing the difference.

My most trusted friends are the ones who can feel when I'm off better than I can feel myself, and aren't afraid to call me present by challenging me to play my limits whether I want to or not, and whether they want to or not, as I do the same for them.

We essentially agree to violate each others preferences and boundaries for the sake of opening each other beyond our own limits.

the people who find their way back to you.
the people you find your way back to.

I think thanks to sites like facebook people have forgotten what the meaning of the word "friend" is. I have a lot of "friends" on facebook who I hardly know.

I think it's time for me to start cleaning up my facebook profile, although most of the people I consider my real friends don't even bother with that stuff anyway xD

..if you wonder why all hell broke loose.....I think that he doesn't want you to take those pills, because this whole "I've got a problem so I've got to take pills" is not a good idea. Even if it's only something herbal, the person somehow starts to believe that this pill is the only thing keeping him or her from misery. Of course that is nonsense. This thought only causes stress and voila he's being depressed. Distracting him is a good way to help him (in that situation). I've got a friend who's alike and that's the best you can do at a time like this.....(remember him that it is nonesense to think like that)

Been on both sides of the fence with depression and anxiety pills. It's all of what you make of it. Some people really do need them to give them the extra push away from depression.

I had a best friend at a point but then she started to ignore me when i got her with a guy that she said she liked. she wanted me to break them up but i wouldn't. so i planned my birthday party and didn't invite her at first but then my friend yuuki said to invite her anyway so i did, and she started to talk to me again. but not even a week after i asked if she wanted to hang out with me and go to an amusement park she said she couldn't because her parents were making her go to a play. so we went to class and she was talking to my other friend yuuki about going to the mall with her on the same day at the same time. i brought it up to her but she said i was being over dramatic. so told her that if that's the way your going to treat me then i am not hanging out with you. my other friends didn't back me up. until i was already hanging out with some other kids. i don't even talk to them hardly. i usually tell them i am practicing in band, but i am sitting in there just look up music to play for a solo... :/

^I know how you feel. Some friends that you make are awesome, but then they decided to ignore you once they got a different friend or two. :/

To add along with "Friends use me instead" topic of mine, there was this one friend I had in my Spanish class and she's really lazy with her work. She's a grade older than me and we both had to work on this Powerpoint project on a Spanish-speaking country. Well, we did some research and for some damn reason, she just threw most of the research work at my face. I just said yes since she'll be working on the powerpoint with the information (she has a powerpoint program and I don't.) So the next day, I showed her all of my work that I did and... She didn't do her fair share of the research. She just said she "forgot" about it from too many homework and project to do that night. I was obviously trying not to get into a pissy mood, so I stayed calm and said that I'll do it then. She then started to work on the powerpoint and I told her if she can't finish it, I can stay after that day. She said she doesn't need any help and the next day after that, she said she couldn't work on it because of "too much homework and projects to do" excuse. I was so freakin' pissed off at her, but I couldn't let my grade sink down because of this lazy woman, so I stayed after on Friday and did the powerpoint. And guess what I found out? She didn't do no sh*t. She only had a couple of notes down for the first three subject, but that's it. I had to do freakin' extra research because of her (I did 12 research subject just for her. TT; ) and redo the whole freakin' powerpoint cause it wasn't started and saved.

Another day, we had to do these skits for Spanish and dammit, I had her and my other friend with me as a group to do it. Since my other friend is doing a test, I decided to write down some of the skits. Later on the day, my other friend finished her test and helped do some part of the skits. Well, the woman who wouldn't do any freakin' work didn't do anything about it. I got so freakin' fustrated that I told her to just write one f*ckin' sentence in Spanish dealing with her family members. She said she couldn't think of any idea, so she'll go home and do it. The next day, she forgot. I thought she must've forgotten for real, so I told her to give it to me tomorrow. Then the next day after that, she said she "FORGOT" to do it. I was so damn angry that I just f*ckin' wrote her line and told her to stop being so DAMN lazy. TT;

Weird thing is that if I tell my teacher this, she would just tell me to just do her work or something. TT; What's even worse with her freakin' excuses about "forgetting" and "too many homework and project" is that she kept talking to her other friends about hanging out in the mall, going up to their house, etc. while I do all of the dirty school's work. Sheesh... Someone needs to teach this woman a lesson.

Sorry... I went on a little rampage with my anger there. I don't really have anybody in my family to say this problem to, so... ><;;

Yeah that happens to me a lot at school. Because I am the "smart one" its like what ever! You just want meto do your work for you! That's what o hate about school I am so glade I am done with it!! But I get you totally!

I have a lot of friends. I wouldn't consider any of them extremely "close", even though I've known a lot of them since a long time ago. I have a lot of variety in friendships. I consider that every one of my friends is a psychological aspect of me that I need to face...it's a nice thought, actually, lol. I like talking about a lot of deep and intricate subjects like philosophy and a lot of my friends don't get it...I have a lot of people who I am acquainted with that are just as well read as I am who I wish I could be friends with :) But you know, with school, there are groups...next year I'm going to meet a lot of people for sure. Can't wait.

Yeah I am like thati hang out with a bunch of people but my best friend I don't hang out.with but I knoe how you feel dude!

Lost one of my friends when I was around 10. Been spending most time of my life with friends and family since then.
I always try to improve relationship with ppl around me. To me, I'd rather have all of my friends be my best friends than "focusing" on a few.
No matter they are friends IRL or on the internet, I try to treat them as brothers and sisters

I always try to improve relationship with ppl around me.
That's good. You seem like a good person. =)


No matter they are friends IRL or on the internet, I try to treat them as brothers and sisters
Not a bad thing, but be careful with that. I'd hate for you to be taken advantage of because of treating someone manipulative as a brother or sister. Kindness is great, but be careful that it's not used against you. So, I'd say just be mindful of how others are treating you, but nevertheless, still continue being the kind person that you sound like you are. =)