As the title said, are you protective of your siblings, family members, and/or friends? Just wondering about it...



I have to say, I'm so DAMN over-protective. My friends are fine, but when it deals with my family personally, I get so pissed off if the first thing I see is somebody crying. ESPECIALLY with my sisters. They're all younger than me, so it's natural for me to protect them. However, if somebody calls them bad names or tries to harm them, boy... The offender is going to get sent to the hospital the next time I see them...

I actually learnt to be more protective over my younger sisters since I failed to do that when I was young. They were... abused... by this fu***** lady... So mean... She especially would beat my youngest sister. She would drop and toss her to the ground, get a knife and try to stab her with it... *Shudder* I hate her so much... and after knowing I didn't have the power to do anything back then since I was so ignorant, I decided to buff up and protect my siblings. One freakin' finger on them = death threats from me. That's how DAMN protective I am to them. >: (

... Sorry. I went overboard. Just had a nasty flashback down my... nasty memory lane. :mellow:

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I'm highly protective. I'll go as far as saying I wouldn't mind dying if it means protecting them, I wouldn't hesitate to dive in front of a knife or a bullet for any of my family and I wouldn't go down without a fight either. I've played around with the idea in my head a lot of times, it's a sacrifice I would make without a second thought. That said, my focus as of right now is with my little sister...she's the youngest and the only daughter of the family so the parents spoil and cherish her a lot (coupled with her being the only granddaughter in my father's side of the family, she's pretty much the favourite). I've pretty much literally spent my entire life watching over her and the lengths I'll go (and regularly go) to ensure her safety somewhat makes me the envy of her friends actually hahahah.

Just recently, there was an incident involving a pervert. Nothing serious happened but she came home bursting in tears and wouldn't tell me what happened, I had to get info from my mom (complete with physical descriptions of him and his car and the area where she saw him) and the first thing I did was rush out and kept a look out for anyone matching that description. It was a stupid move considering it happened quite some time after I found out about it, but the only thing I could think of was how I'm going to track down this asswipe and pretty much try to goad him into attacking me. At the very least, I'll have a legitimate reason for beating him down. I even smuggled out a box cutter from the house just in case he had something on him if I managed to find him. I wasn't thinking at the time, hell I was actually itching for a fight and spent a couple of hours outside looking for him, I got back sometime around sunset. In hindsight, smuggling a box cutter out and using it would've put me in greater trouble, not to mention I'm not much of a fighter...everything I know is based only on theory, not experience. But I guess I consider it worth the trouble.

I guess it was both a good thing and a bad thing I didn't find him, good in a sense that it didn't escalate and bad in the sense that I failed...but after that incident, I've been paying closer attention to my sister, which is kinda hard considering I'm in university and she's in high school.

All this younger sister talk is making me itch... if Kou was here he'd know what I mean.


I can be very caring and protective, moreso than most people on earth, but I also know when to let go.

Besides the biological response of wanting to protect one's own kin from danger, I'm caring in that I do what I feel will serve you to move deeper into a wider bliss that I know you're capable of. Will this action ultimately serve you even though it seems perverse? Will this action ultimately not serve you even though it seems completely rational? How can I take you into a deeper revelation and awaken you to the nature of your being?

It's a lifelong art.

Some people are very open and receptive and easily move deeper with you. Others resist because they're not ready to let go of their ground into unknown territories. Some people never will.

In short, I want to take you deeper. If you're not ready, I (try to) leave you alone.

Unfortunately, my entire family is neurotic and tried to "overprotect" the younger in order to make themselves feel important like it's their one and only purpose in life, and have no idea what people need when people are growing up, nor do they have any idea of what they really want for themselves. I still look out for them and so forth and try to care for them as best as I can, but I'm done with the word family. I don't blame them. If the family I grew up in wasn't crazy, I wouldn't have been motivated to learn how not to be the same way to others. So in a way, I'm grateful to them. I try to tell myself that.

I consider it conditioning on my part. My little sister was born 3 years after me, so basically I've been tasked with looking after her ever since I was 5 years old and pretty much have been for 15 years now, this duty has essentially become a regular part of my life without even knowing it.

Dear Santa: In my next lifetime, I want a younger sister.

I have a hands-off approach. Basically when conversation crosses paths, I talk to/about them, but I do not go out of my way to talk to them, nor do I protect them from insults.

I'm highly protective. I'll go as far as saying I wouldn't mind dying if it means protecting them, I wouldn't hesitate to dive in front of a knife or a bullet for any of my family and I wouldn't go down without a fight either. I've played around with the idea in my head a lot of times, it's a sacrifice I would make without a second thought. That said, my focus as of right now is with my little sister...she's the youngest and the only daughter of the family so the parents spoil and cherish her a lot (coupled with her being the only granddaughter in my father's side of the family, she's pretty much the favourite). I've pretty much literally spent my entire life watching over her and the lengths I'll go (and regularly go) to ensure her safety somewhat makes me the envy of her friends actually hahahah.

Just recently, there was an incident involving a pervert. Nothing serious happened but she came home bursting in tears and wouldn't tell me what happened, I had to get info from my mom (complete with physical descriptions of him and his car and the area where she saw him) and the first thing I did was rush out and kept a look out for anyone matching that description. It was a stupid move considering it happened quite some time after I found out about it, but the only thing I could think of was how I'm going to track down this asswipe and pretty much try to goad him into attacking me. At the very least, I'll have a legitimate reason for beating him down. I even smuggled out a box cutter from the house just in case he had something on him if I managed to find him. I wasn't thinking at the time, hell I was actually itching for a fight and spent a couple of hours outside looking for him, I got back sometime around sunset. In hindsight, smuggling a box cutter out and using it would've put me in greater trouble, not to mention I'm not much of a fighter...everything I know is based only on theory, not experience. But I guess I consider it worth the trouble.

I guess it was both a good thing and a bad thing I didn't find him, good in a sense that it didn't escalate and bad in the sense that I failed...but after that incident, I've been paying closer attention to my sister, which is kinda hard considering I'm in university and she's in high school.

Ha. I would do the same thing if I were in your position. :P

Anyhow, I have to disagree, in my opinion, about the dying part. I mean, sure, dying for somebody is a good thing if they're in danger. But... I then had this thought cross my mind: What the heck are they going to do? I mean, if I died to protect my sisters, then... are they going to cope with it? (No, doesn't mean that I'm afraid of death. I'm afraid of the aftermath) I feel very bad when I don't stay with them for a while since they are a chunk of my life (Obviously, other things are important too.) So if I never came back, I always think that they would be depressive and become emotionless. :mellow:

So usually if we have a life-or-death situation, of course I have to protect them, but I will NOT die in front of their face at least. I will live my life to it's fullest and even if I'm riddled with multiple stabs from a knife or bullets from a gun, I will not die until justice is brought upon the attacker.

To be over protective can be harmful to the other person in some aspects. Be careful how you are over protective. The other must learn how to solve problems by their own and not to feel the need to ask or hope for someone else to protect them in the future. You can take a look at how over protective parents have an impact in the growing of their children. Of course there are situations that ask for you to protect the others, because is a dangerous situation that must be handle carefully.

I fall under over protective person (including animals). I am pretty sure the day I become a father I will be extremely protective. I have to learn how to handle that correctly. Since it can be harmful in the end, or annoying to the other person.

The best is to warn and to give advice. But this depend of the situation and the person. If there is extreme danger, you must take action before something lethal happen.

Ha. I would do the same thing if I were in your position. :P

Anyhow, I have to disagree, in my opinion, about the dying part. I mean, sure, dying for somebody is a good thing if they're in danger. But... I then had this thought cross my mind: What the heck are they going to do? I mean, if I died to protect my sisters, then... are they going to cope with it? (No, doesn't mean that I'm afraid of death. I'm afraid of the aftermath) I feel very bad when I don't stay with them for a while since they are a chunk of my life (Obviously, other things are important too.) So if I never came back, I always think that they would be depressive and become emotionless. :mellow:

So usually if we have a life-or-death situation, of course I have to protect them, but I will NOT die in front of their face at least. I will live my life to it's fullest and even if I'm riddled with multiple stabs from a knife or bullets from a gun, I will not die until justice is brought upon the attacker.

I'm sure they'll cope. They all know my sense of justice and they won't be bogged down by the false "it's my fault" mentality. I've made it clear before that if anything happens to me in the event that something dangerous occurs, it's all on me. I'm the one responsible for my own life and if I choose to throw it away so they could live, then that's my choice. I'm also banking on the "he wouldn't want you to be like this, he sacrificed himself for you" talk that might pop up sometime hahahah

Like I said before though, I don't intend to go down without a fight. If someone puts my family's life in danger, I wouldn't stop until one of us is dead. [/cheesytalk]

@Nyuu: Yeah, I only intervene when I have to, pretty much...

I'm protective of my younger brothers but not overprotective. When kids bullied them in school when they were younger, I can tell you they got a nice little visit from me. Teachers singling them out. Visit the school board and got them written up. Don't mess with me. I don't end it with violence. No, it's far worse than that.

I have a hands-off approach. Basically when conversation crosses paths, I talk to/about them, but I do not go out of my way to talk to them, nor do I protect them from insults.

That sounds like the relationship I have with my brother (who is younger than I). If something that could physically harm him come about I would protect him from it for the fact of being humanitarian. He's not exactly a nice person and doesn't treat anyone else in the family with respect so I don't go out of my way to help him.

As for the rest of my family I would gladly defend them; socially and physically. I constantly look out for my mum since she's pretty innocent to some things in life. I also very much look out for my friends, its not uncommon for me to do a military scan of everyplace we enter. I'm probably even more protective of my younger cousins, nearly all of which are female. Also a close friend of my family leaves her daughter with us so she can work often, and I'm extremely protective of her as well. My family and friends may not realise it but I tend to work overtime in trying to make them safe. Everything I do is just like an anti virus program, you never notice it in everyday life unless a threat is spotted.

Well, as far as I now I am very protective of my brothers (I'm the only girl in the family TT_TT), friends and relatives especially when they are being abused by abusive people. :D I don't like it when people hurt those who are precious to me. -_-

I'm highly protective. I'll go as far as saying I wouldn't mind dying if it means protecting them, I wouldn't hesitate to dive in front of a knife or a bullet for any of my family and I wouldn't go down without a fight either. I've played around with the idea in my head a lot of times, it's a sacrifice I would make without a second thought.


Definitely the same as you are. A life where you die for someone/or a good cause is a life worth living for.

I actually feel weird playing around with dramatic situations in my head--but hey, it's nice to see that people do as well.

I feel that we, as people, should put ourselves in for others.