I have a question to the girls of this forum. Why do girls bitch? Like why is it that it's not acceptable to like the same guy as your friends? Why can't someone go out with your ex? It'll be nice to know the viewpoints of girls from different countries. Guys can try and take a guess if they want.

EDIT: would it be better if I made a separate thread for this?

phew, ank, you're asking a HELL OF A LOT there, but i'll give it a shot ^_^

Girls, well, a lot of them, it's just natural for us i guess. I think a lot of girls or perhaps more concious than a lot of guys, and therefore talk about others as a formof omparison. Also because it's just somthing else to talk about, to vent etc. It's the whole social thing I guess. I mean, there ARE girls who don't bitch and stuff, a lot of the time, the "serious bitches" are the ones that need to put other down in order to make themselves feel better about themselves.

As to liking the same guy, think about it. We girls came be nasty jealous things, and things like guys just can't be shared, ne? I mean, sure if you just "like" some guy and you just think they're hot, but if more than one girl sees a guy as a potential boyfriend, she'd not going to want to share, is she? A lot of factors can affect this, such as looks, personality etc etc...much too complex X_X

Now, going out with someones ex. Well, they obviously liked their ex to some degree. This is normally a problem when the girl TRULY liked her ex and more often than not, still has some sort of attatchment to them and if one of heir frineds starts dating the ex, they're going to be a little jealous.

I hope that cleared it up a little :heh: And sorry if that didn't make sense, wasn't accurate etc. Theres a lot more to it, that's for sure, and that's just my own views on it ^_^

Yeah, like, if your ex was a bastard to you and got off with somebody else, you'd be more likely to warn your mate not to go out with them than get jealous over it. But that's only if you decide that you now hate your ex for doing that - if you still like him even though he did that to you then yes, you would dislike the idea of someone else going out with him - the same would also apply if you dumped him for somebody else, you kinda want to keep your options open ;)

And everyone bitches - come on, even GUYS bitch (I've had some fabulous bitchfests with Spiky and Zeus XD) It's not something that's just restricted to girls. But girls are a bit more likely to bitch over less serious stuff like boob sizes and whatnot - yes, boob size is a matter of hot contention amongst girls as well as guys XD Especially when a girl claims to have more cleavage than she does in reality!

lol, we tend no to cover the latter topic XD although on thursday....we moved into other territories :whistle:

And yes, guys bitch. I overheard some of my guy friends and it was quite refreshing to hear them XD and yes, must agree with maz on bitchfests with Spiky and the others. Ah, the joys and terrors of group convos .

Originally posted by Inu-chan@Jul 11 2005, 06:03 PM
lol, we tend no to cover the latter topic XD although on thursday....we moved into other territories :whistle:
I can guess XD LOL, this thread could so turn into a girly gossip thing ;)

An-kun came up with a few questions in Social Groupie that kicked off a potential conversation.

I thought it might be worth starting a new thread for this.. who knows?

Keeping the girly gossip out of that other thread, at least. :stoned:

BOHAHAHA, girly gossip :devil:

Oh I get a new thread! yay! I was wondering when I made this thread XD

Um but you can't possess guys can you. There's no like property rights. You kind of make them sound like objects in your possession.

Yeah guys bitch too but I don't think it's to that extent that girls seem to do. We don't own our ex's like you seem to do sometimes.

Lol. Turn it into girly gossip if you really want Maz.

Yeah guys bitch too but I don't think it's to that extent that girls seem to do. We don't own our ex's like you seem to do sometimes.

I bitch a lot actually so i dont think you can say one sex bitches more than the other coz everyone's individual. But I do agree that girls seem to own their ex's :huh: how strange.

I would like to ask a question actually as the topic has came up; why do girls have to go to the bathroom together in groups of 2 or more? its not like you can talk to each other coz u have seperate cubicles right?

Everyone asks that question! Well, in pubs/clubs etc it's common sense to go in pairs to make sure the other person is okay/not chundering everywhere etc. In school hours, it's so we can goss XD Btw, girls also use the loos to redo their makeup/brush their hair etc as well, which is why it's nice to have someone to chat to while you're doing it!

Originally posted by Thorn@Jul 11 2005, 01:32 PM
I bitch a lot actually so i dont think you can say one sex bitches more than the other coz everyone's individual.
Tut tut. Bitching isn't very nice....

Originally posted by Inu-chan@Jul 11 2005, 08:03 AM
lol, we tend no to cover the latter topic XD although on thursday....we moved into other territories :whistle:

And yes, guys bitch. I overheard some of my guy friends and it was quite refreshing to hear them XD and yes, must agree with maz on bitchfests with Spiky and the others. Ah, the joys and terrors of group convos .
Oooh, yes~!!!!! Bitchfests and group convos ARE great~!!!! :D :D :D

Originally posted by an-kun@Jul 11 2005, 03:08 PM
Tut tut. Bitching isn't very nice....
lol- i know its not very nice but i cant help it sometimes; there are some things that just need to be said

Originally posted by Thorn@Jul 11 2005, 04:03 PM
lol- i know its not very nice but i cant help it sometimes; there are some things that just need to be said
True, I bitch a lot. XD

I get bitched at a lot... all over just me being there... *argh*

im evil.
I hate any dudes who have a crush on me and I dont like them back. I go into beyond bitch mode.
Letsee..
I yell and scream at them in front of their friends and embarrass them.
Silent treatment
I trip them
throw soad cans at them

Then they get scared of me and not like me anymore and I go back to NICE eternal and be friends! ^_^
lol ya... im indeed from hell.

Okay, Eternal, I'm SCARED of you now! XD

Originally posted by Eternal@Jul 13 2005, 08:29 PM
im evil.
I hate any dudes who have a crush on me and I dont like them back. I go into beyond bitch mode.
Letsee..
I yell and scream at them in front of their friends and embarrass them.
Silent treatment
I trip them
throw soad cans at them

Then they get scared of me and not like me anymore and I go back to NICE eternal and be friends! ^_^
lol ya... im indeed from hell.
:o That's not very nice... :mellow:

Hmmm tripping up, soda cans......sounds like yukino from kare kano....... :P

nyaaaa...
i dont fall in love as easliy as her
as a matter of fact i never liked anyone before :mellow:
And MAN am I proud of that!

XD! I do that too....i'm not that mean, though. But good job, Eternal. If you don't want them chasing after you then I guess it's ok that you treat them like that....but still XD!

its their fault =_=
theny must leave me alone
guys who like u but you dont like them back get all CLINGING
and FLIRTY and BLUSHY
and the worst part is.. YOU dont like them and they think they stand a chace with u and thus filling themselves with false confidance which makes them all the more clingy.
So the only way to get rid of them is to be evil.

Originally posted by Eternal@Jul 13 2005, 08:52 PM
its their fault =_=
theny must leave me alone
guys who like u but you dont like them back get all CLINGING
and FLIRTY and BLUSHY
and the worst part is.. YOU dont like them and they think they stand a chace with u and thus filling themselves with false confidance which makes them all the more clingy.
So the only way to get rid of them is to be evil.
Actually that's not true with all guys. :mellow:

guys who like u but you dont like them back

@ Ank: :whistle: i think that's what she meant lol

Guys can be real dicks when they're trying to hide the fact they like you X_X

Originally posted by an-kun@Jul 13 2005, 09:09 PM
Actually that's not true with all guys. :mellow:
... shush ur not a gril im seeing this from my perspective
lol
BUT i must admitt that there are dudes out there who are naturally nice and not suck ups even when they dont have a crush on u.
Those are guys i see as brothers.

@ maz
I think its better for the guys if they dont tell you that they like you OR SHOW you.
FOr their own safety of course.

I meant to clinging, flirting blushing thing Fob. Um how are they dicks :s, I&#39;m intrigued by that. Tell, tell <puppy dog eyes>

Guys can be real dicks when they&#39;re trying to hide the fact they like you

Yeah they can....one kid....*shudders* ruined my whole 8th grade experience (as in he made my life a living hell) then a year later I meet with him and a couple of old friends and he explains that he was only mean because he liked me I said and I quote "Well gee. That makes it all better doesn&#39;t it? Just because you have no self- confidence I had to suffer. That makes so much sense." yeah...he doesn&#39;t like me so much anymore.

With girls it seems as though there is no inbetween. You&#39;re either mean to them cause you like them ...or you&#39;re throwing youself at them...i wonder why that is?

Originally posted by Fob@Jul 13 2005, 09:18 PM
With girls it seems as though there is no inbetween. You&#39;re either mean to them cause you like them ...or you&#39;re throwing youself at them...i wonder why that is?
You girls do the same though...

*nods* i agree
though i&#39;ve never met a dude who was really mean to me for any reasons..
Except maybe Angelic considering he rampaged over me a few times but it was my fault so nyaa...
I dont think guys are mean though. Most of them live for laughs.

You girls do the same though...

I was talking about how girls do it. not guys. guys usually don&#39;t.

ooh.. lol i thought the same thing as An-kun then i htought u were talking about guys.
why do I always get An-kun mixed up with SA... ?

@ Fob - oops...

@eternal - you what?&#33; SA is a lot younger than me&#33;

Originally posted by madmazda86@Jul 14 2005, 05:12 AM
Guys can be real dicks when they&#39;re trying to hide the fact they like you X_X
More often than not they set off your "alarm" even before they speak to you. :ph34r:

*cough cough*

Amazing what "infatuation" can reduce some male members of our species to. :whistle:

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:stoned:

ugh, i hjate it when guys go all mean and weird when they like you =_= and players, i hate guys who don&#39;t give a clear mssage and then i think they&#39;re being stupid and get really cold towards them...

and it&#39;s bad when you finally get a guys attention, but then you don&#39;t know what to do. it&#39;s happened to me before X_X craziness i tells ya.

Originally posted by Inu&#045;chan+Jul 14 2005, 10:13 AM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (Inu&#045;chan &#064; Jul 14 2005, 10:13 AM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'>Ugh, I hate it when guys go all mean and weird when they like you =_= and players, I hate guys who don&#39;t give a clear message and then I think they&#39;re being stupid and get really cold towards them...[/b]
1) Well, they&#39;ll learn how to conduct themselves before ladies. Or they might fail at attracting a heterosexual mate and their inferior genes will be eliminated from our gene pool. Mwahahahaha&#33; (obviously ignoring the "they go queer and have someone birth them a baby" scenario here)

2) Then and again, what may be "mean and weird" to you might be "intriguing and exciting" to another girl.

3) As for giving a "clear message" . . . imagine, if you will, one day when you&#39;re sitting in Starbucks enjoying a large (Dave Barry says: "Listen, people: You should never, ever have to utter the words "Grande Supremo" unless you are addressing a tribal warlord who is holding you captive and threatening to burn you at the stake. JUST SAY YOU WANT A LARGE COFFEE, PEOPLE.") Strawberry Frappucino with Extra Cream and a slice of Blueberry Swirl Cheesecake and a Fruits Basket manga (I know it&#39;s over the top, but please bear with me). Suddenly, this handsome, smashing, hawt, frumptiouse chap you&#39;ve been peeking out of the corner of your book gets his drink from the counter - and walks towards you. He smiles at you. But that&#39;s not all. The very same bishounen plops himself down beside you, and you stare at him, flustered. He smiles, and draws your eyes into his.

And suddenly, this absolute stranger says,

"Will you marry me?"

. . . . . .

This is an exaggeration. Just two things here. 1)Different people have different perceptions of a "clear message". Some people might even prefer the suspense of not knowing the nature of the game they&#39;re playing. 2)Never go to Starbucks by yourself. ;)

<!--QuoteBegin-Inu&#045;chan@Jul 14 2005, 10:13 AM
and it&#39;s bad when you finally get a guys attention, but then you don&#39;t know what to do. it&#39;s happened to me before X_X craziness i tells ya.[/quote]

4) Well, there&#39;s no simple solution for this, is there? Different people act - and react - differently. For example, what might win you Kurama (see Yu Yu Hakushou) might not work for Kurapica (see Hunter X Hunter). (I know, I&#39;m so outdated =P).

5) But there are some Rules that a girl or a guy should always keep in mind when approaching a member of the opposite/same sex that she/he&#39;s interested in. May I reccommend The Rules (http://www.amazon.co.uk/exec/obidos/ASIN/0722539746/qid=1121309432/sr=8-1/ref=sr_8_xs_ap_i1_xgl/202-4254749-5955827)?

:stoned:

ROFL XD

I will keep those points in mind in the future ;) and I will make sure I don&#39;t go into any Starbucks alone, order a Strawberry Frappacino with extra cream etc . although the prospect of atually attracting a bishounen like that.....hmmmmm :think:

Lol. Red stone, that&#39;s a nice way of putting it. That comic is class.

Originally posted by an&#045;kun@Jul 10 2005, 09:00 PM
Why can&#39;t someone go out with your ex? It&#39;ll be nice to know the viewpoints of girls from different countries. Guys can try and take a guess if they want.

damn straight i&#39;ll have a go at this. I think with this question it would depend on who is going out with your ex and how long after your break up. If it was like a week or so then it is normally like a big no no. its a respect thing. you&#39;ve justr broken up, they probably still have feelings for the other person and so to go out with them so soon its kinda like a big put down to you like did you mean nothing to them.

a mate of mine went out with my ex a week after we split and i was furious at him i wanted to do some serious damage but i knew that he is a nice guy and so i knew it would be my ex&#39;s doing. they split after about a month and i found out she turn round to him and said it had been ages since we split so she lied to him. he was really apologetic i was kool with that. but its weird she shows no signs of any feelings for me in fact she just acts a slag, yet if i have the girls all over me and if i get into a intimate hug with 1 of them she gets well upsets starts sitting on the floor behind walls and sometimes leaves the place extremely early. theres alot i do know about women but there are still something I dont know.

I dont know if ive answered the question or maybe ive just added to the discussion

Weird :blink: Yeah I see the thing you said about the one week thing, but I still don&#39;t have a clue why girls still get possessive after that long a time period. Beats me really. @_@

Amazing what "infatuation" can reduce some male members of our species to

Agreed, but also amazing what "infatuation" can reduce some female members of our species to. Such as, following you around with their friends; purposely sitting on the bench next to the ones you and your friends are so that they can perv and try and attract attention, ignoring close friends to go and stalk a guy who&#39;s clearly not interested; getting all upset because they&#39;re so lovesick; dressing like a baby prostitute to get attention- and they&#39;ve never spoken to you anyway, so its obvious they dont really know you that well so how the hell can they think they love you? Oh yeah, another thing that really pisses me off; when they send two or three of their friends over to ask if you&#39;re single, or tell you their mate fancies you :angry: GROW UP&#33;&#33;&#33;

Im not saying guys dont do the same, but this thread seems to be turning into a bitching thread against us :bleh:


I still don&#39;t have a clue why girls still get possessive after that long a time period.

I can understand if its a close friend and they were the victim, coz i think its just something you don&#39;t do, male or female; if you&#39;re best mate has broken up with his/her boy/girlfriend, you dont start flirting with them and trying to get close, coz it&#39;s betrayal. However if it was your friend who finished it, then i dont see the problem.

Originally posted by Thorn@Jul 14 2005, 12:01 PM

Agreed, but also amazing what "infatuation" can reduce some female members of our species to. Such as, following you around with their friends; purposely sitting on the bench next to the ones you and your friends are so that they can perv and try and attract attention, ignoring close friends to go and stalk a guy who&#39;s clearly not interested; getting all upset because they&#39;re so lovesick; dressing like a baby prostitute to get attention- and they&#39;ve never spoken to you anyway, so its obvious they dont really know you that well so how the hell can they think they love you? Oh yeah, another thing that really pisses me off; when they send two or three of their friends over to ask if you&#39;re single, or tell you their mate fancies you :angry: GROW UP&#33;&#33;&#33;

Im not saying guys dont do the same, but this thread seems to be turning into a bitching thread against us :bleh:



I can understand if its a close friend and they were the victim, coz i think its just something you don&#39;t do, male or female; if you&#39;re best mate has broken up with his/her boy/girlfriend, you dont start flirting with them and trying to get close, coz it&#39;s betrayal. However if it was your friend who finished it, then i dont see the problem.
Calm down. calm down. Of course girls are just as bad (or worse? :unsure: ). I don&#39;t like getting hounded either but there&#39;s nothing you can do about it. Guys kind of do that too though. I think that&#39;s called stalking. I also prefer it if the girl told me herself instead of getting her mates.

Um, my point is more, why are people possessive of ex&#39;s in the first place if they don&#39;t like them in that way anymore (disregarding close/best friends). That&#39;s what I don&#39;t get. @_@

Originally posted by Red Stone@Jul 14 2005, 12:52 PM
May I reccommend The Rules (http://www.amazon.co.uk/exec/obidos/ASIN/0722539746/qid=1121309432/sr=8-1/ref=sr_8_xs_ap_i1_xgl/202-4254749-5955827)?
Dumdedum...

How about these Rules (http://www.amazon.co.uk/exec/obidos/ASIN/0330301861/qid=1121350948/sr=1-1/ref=sr_1_2_1/202-8969383-1518205)? It probably won&#39;t help much, but just confuse XD But its a good read nonetheless. The movie is just as good if not better and covers all bases. Yes... all of them.

everyone&#39;s posts are jsut so long @_@
im not reading those... ^

awww diddums....but mine aren&#39;t actually long. They&#39;ve just got quotes from other people in them.

Originally posted by Inu&#045;chan@Jul 14 2005, 02:13 AM
ugh, i hjate it when guys go all mean and weird when they like you =_= and players, i hate guys who don&#39;t give a clear mssage and then i think they&#39;re being stupid and get really cold towards them...

and it&#39;s bad when you finally get a guys attention, but then you don&#39;t know what to do. it&#39;s happened to me before X_X craziness i tells ya.
Argh, I know, a boy who once liked me decided to show his passion by giving me lead poisoning every day. ^^;;;;;;;;;;;;

Lead poisoning?
With actual paint lead or like lead from a lead pencil?

Uhm...its really humorous when a guy and a girl liked each other except both are too shy to admit it...@.@ it happened to me today during Dance at school (we do dance for 3 weeks during winter) and we had these partner dances where you had to hold hnad, hips, backs, shoulders etc. and well...i was blushing my head off and looking to the left while my "crush" looked to the right....*sigh*

But girls do tend to get a bit aggressive towards other girls if they see them hanging out with their ex, in my school...guys a kinda like possessions...@.@ its either control or be controlled...

yes yes! that is sad yet funny eh...
happend to me too
years ago.. when i was a young little fella... i liked this girl.... eventually she found out and like, we just tried to keep our distance and stuff... and like.. we was close friends, then after that we just never looked or talked to each other...
later i found out that she likes me too XD but.. even though, we kept our distance...
evnetually, all feelings was lost and now we are close friends again ^^

^ sniffles thats so saad...

Lead poisoning?
With actual paint lead or like lead from a lead pencil?

Lead paint is illigal, and they dont use lead in pencils anymore...I would know, I eat pencil lead...O_O If it was lead, I would be dead..

Im a poet!

............eating pencil "lead"....is bad! *smack DCs hands with a ruler* :nono:

Anyway back on topic ^_^


its really humorous when a guy and a girl liked each other except both are too shy to admit it...

:( I think that might be happening to me....it's not really that humorous.

yeah its sad like *cries* that actually happened to me before

...i don't really think much about dating the whole "ex" rule. But some girls...say if they really liked they're boyfriend but had to break up for some reason that wasn't their fault...how would you feel if you saw your best friend making out with your ex? like i said...i don't really think about it much, i've only dated assholes. <_<

Hehe, how did I miss this topic?

Anywho, so ya'll know, I am a guy, but I tend to have way more friends that are girls than not >.> I got conviced once to get my ear pierced by just shoving the earring through my ear. O.o Anyhow, about dating the ex thing, guys don't really care I don't think. At least, I know I don't. I haven't been in a relationship that lasted more than two months. Pffft. And we don't really break up cuz we are mad or anything, but it is mainly my fault cuz I don't commit. I just sort of ingore them and all, and we sort of fall apart. But I think that is sort of better in my view, cuz then we are still on friend level. But back to the ex thing, I don't mind if they go out with them cuz I don't have feelings for them.

Next, about that whole crush thing, once again, pfffft. In my view, guys who are too shy to ask someone out aren't worth the trouble of getting to know, same goes for girls. I don't have time for it. I wake up at 5 in the morning, go to school and come back at 5:30. Eat an early dinner. Finish what homework I didn't finish on the bus. Practice piano for a while. By then it is 7:30. Jump on msn for 30 min. Catch the 8:00 movie to watch for an hr. Then hit the hay. >.> Also, I don't talk on the phone with my g/fs, I have no time for it. I end it in 5 minutes, normally by saying someone else is calling... hmmm. I'm not one for relationships outside of school >.> But I have a long lunch hr. so I am good :D

...i don't really think much about dating the whole "ex" rule. But some girls...say if they really liked they're boyfriend but had to break up for some reason that wasn't their fault...how would you feel if you saw your best friend making out with your ex? like i said...i don't really think about it much, i've only dated assholes. <_<

Well I've seen that happen before. Not pleasant. Date a nicer guy then. You'll find prince charming/or whatever rocks your boat(spiderman? =P) someday.

Asuka - er nice story ^_^

@wifey - I'm a possession....? XD

Hell, I don't care. XD Actually, I'm all for it! That way, if he's an ass, you can all talk 'bout him behind his back! XD Haha, just kidding. <3 I don't know, actually. Girls are weird. ^^ <3 Then again, I'm weird. o-O I don't like titles, so the guy I'm in love with right now, well, we aren't going out, but we both love eachother. XD <3 So we're both just...yeah. o-O;; XD

Yeah...not very humurous anymore....the guy i liked decided to go out with another girl...so here i am standing in the cold with a dieing rose...=(

@ An-kun: YES!!! YOU ARE MINE!!! ALLLLL MINE!!! BWUAHAHAHAHA!!!! actually you're not. I would prefer to treat you as an equal or even a superior *smile*

I used to think a girl/guy dating each other's ex was totally against the rules of feminism, but now, when it happened to me I wasn't so bothered. Yeah it annoyed me and I felt sad, but yeah... :mellow:

i've never thought about these kinda stuff (or experianced it for that matter) since i've never dated anyone before...=/

I've been asked many times but i've always rejected...sometimes i wonder why...

You didn't reject An-kun when he requested a pair up. Thats not such a bad first step.
Clearly you've done alot of rejecting because you weren't interested in any of these people.

An-kun must be the Man.

I need a Red Bull.

You didn't reject An-kun when he requested a pair up. Thats not such a bad first step.
Clearly you've done alot of rejecting because you weren't interested in any of these people.

An-kun must be the Man.

I need a Red Bull.

XD After you Zach, of course. Plus I didn't actually do anything much :heh:

i want a red bull too, i need a boost today

XD After you Zach, of course. Plus I didn't actually do anything much :heh:

Eh heh ^^; While An-kun means alot to me (yehp first place in my heart =D) It's kinda different from RL, to be asked face to face you know? =x i think it was easier for me to say "yes" since An-kun was allllllll the way in England

haha yeah... online is much easier than RL
and thinking about things is a lot easier than to act it...

^thats coz you neednt to worry about what the other person's reactions coz you cant see them.,....since subconsciously you may be thinking that you are talking to an electronic person rather than a real person!

real life is alot harder. its as simple as that. i don't really care about the whole subconcious thing. all i know is that i can't talk very well to people in real life, but online, there is no reason for me to afear.

^subconscious actions!

subconsciousness is not something you can care about or not...its in everyone or so as Freud said it....

anyway....thats off topic!

Real life is easy. Just be cool (as in chilled). The more you ask, the easier it gets.

haha.....for you maybe Zach...but to some people....its just too hard to even try to make the effort to move the first step!

boyfriends and exs are pocessions?! O_o

Everyone asks that question! Well, in pubs/clubs etc it's common sense to go in pairs to make sure the other person is okay/not chundering everywhere etc. In school hours, it's so we can goss XD Btw, girls also use the loos to redo their makeup/brush their hair etc as well, which is why it's nice to have someone to chat to while you're doing it!

lol I always thought we go into the washroom in groups of twos or more because we have a huge sumo-wrestling showdown in the bathroom...

my imagination is rampant XD

uhm...in my school ex's kinda...O.o but not only guys, girls too...once you've gone out...you're hands off! XD

I asked a guy to dance with me at the social...(it was a dare...) and i think i lost all my courage...at least i asked him to dance =3 but...isn't it tradition for the guy to ask the girl...? O.o

but do you really need 30 other people to go with?

EDIT: Tradition sucks

uhm...in my school ex's kinda...O.o but not only guys, girls too...once you've gone out...you're hands off! XD

I asked a guy to dance with me at the social...(it was a dare...) and i think i lost all my courage...at least i asked him to dance =3 but...isn't it tradition for the guy to ask the girl...? O.o

you said its a dare...then its nothing! its just a lil game thing so losing courage there really isnt anything!

traditions? yes that is....but welcome to te 21st century! theres a lot more ladies nowadays make the first move to ask.....its really just coz they find that some guys are just too coward to ask (soz....but this IS from experience!)

uhm...in my school ex's kinda...O.o but not only guys, girls too...once you've gone out...you're hands off! XD

I asked a guy to dance with me at the social...(it was a dare...) and i think i lost all my courage...at least i asked him to dance =3 but...isn't it tradition for the guy to ask the girl...? O.o


lol I remember when I asked this guy to dance with m eat my grade 8 prom, I remember being so red in the face through the entire thing hehe, this was also the guy that bugged me ALL YEAR that year hehe, fun memories. sad part was I never talked to him again because he moved away to some place... that I can't remember O.o

but you know it's fun to break traditions, I mean how is a person gonna know you want to dance?

uhm...in my school ex's kinda...O.o but not only guys, girls too...once you've gone out...you're hands off! XD

I asked a guy to dance with me at the social...(it was a dare...) and i think i lost all my courage...at least i asked him to dance =3 but...isn't it tradition for the guy to ask the girl...? O.o

I went to a disco where all the girls did the asking. XD

haha.....for you maybe Zach...but to some people....its just too hard to even try to make the effort to move the first step!

boyfriends and exs are pocessions?! O_o

Maybe now. At one point I was probably just as nervous as anyone else.
My girl calls me her possession. Its kind of neat that she thinks so. :D

My girl calls me her possession. Its kind of neat that she thinks so.

:huh: As long as you think so then I guess that's ok.

If a guy ever did that to me....castration...:rolleyes:

Me... I always treat the one I like as if we are one being... I know that sounds freaky but it works for me. Like when I see she needs help, it feels as though my right hand needs help so i use my left (me) and hope for vice versa. I bet I'm just randomly talking and what I'm saying has nothing to do with what everyone else is talking of lol.

to become one's possession?! sounds like youre like their slave or something.....i really dont like the sound of it

but then again...if its about knowing your ex's are dating someone else.....the feeling of "possession" i think it depends on how your relationship ended

lol i don't really care if some one goes out with an ex of mine, even if they are a friend, it's their choice and i am still friends with all of my ex's cept one (never see each other anyway). hm... the reason girls bitch is pretty similar to the reason guys bitch. hm... if two girls that are friends like a same guy, they either bitch, have a fight and not be friends, or talk about it and come up with a solution.

but every girl is different so yeah.

you said its a dare...then its nothing! its just a lil game thing so losing courage there really isnt anything!




But...it was a guy i kinda liked...=/

if possession is fine with you Zach, then so be it.
but if anyone called me their possession, they're a goner

You know the benefits of being a girls possession right? Its worth it!
Anyway, I said 'I think its neat she thinks so. :D '. Ain't no one woman gonna ever own me. Its always good if they think they do. I like my ego boosts.

I'm the product of Red Bull's genetic engineering. Red Bull is my owner. :drinking:

Edit: You are a girl.

Bad Horsie.

XD thats what you get when you don't check, Zach

i think its a bvad thing calling someone "yours". you share each other with each other. its more like joint ownership

I think it is okay for a girl to call a guy their possesion, cuz guys don't really care, gives em more pride. But when A guy calls a girl his possesion, that just makes her look like a slut, or a prostitute.

Bloody double standards.

Edit: Actually, I don't like the idea of owning a woman. They're higher maintanance than a puppy, aren't they? So are dudes. Red Bulls are not.
I want a Red Bull.

Bad Horsie.

Took the words right out of my mouth <_<. I don't get double standards....who started them and on what truth are they based on? (if any at all)

I think its got something to do with how your own gender thinks. How to prove this theory of mine is a bit hard. Us dudes celebrate reaching new Platéau's. Women are jealous of others reaching such. I guess this could be flipped around, vise versa.

How about 51% of dudes celebrate to 49% of women?

Thats my horrid little pseudo-theory. it has no factual truth, just viewed observations.

i reckon its a larger percentage of guys then that

I think what you are trying to describe, Zach, is what australians call tall poppy syndrome. When others get ahead of you you cut them down from underneath. Or at least that is how I interpret it.
I also think I saw a program at some point which put forward the opinion that females get more possessive like that from some biological instinct where as males don't because their biological instinct is to spread the DNA around. Can't quite remember
when or where I saw that though.

that sounds about right... <_<

i reckon its a larger percentage of guys then that

I think so too. I was just trying to convey that more than half us guys will be happy for the other dude (the rest are the fuming dudes who had something for this girl). Whereas.. Exactly what Squiggle said. She knows all.

im' sick of people liking the same person, even when they are already taken, such as the situation with my friend and me,who both like the same person. bad situation there

Why though? You can't tell someone not to like someone. That's why you have to act fast rather than wait it out and hope the person makes the move for you like I've probably said 100 times before.

He is correct.

Squiggle sounds right, yeah girls tend to cut each other down from underneath, personally i think it's great for my friends to get wateva level they want to reach, it doesn't effect me, just if they need help i'll give it. guys are guys, but they can be competitive about somethings though, like sport, they cut each other down in that.

and not hat u have mentioned that u like someone, and that one of our friends like that someone, who is the friend? i now the other pplz, just which friend is this?

that's true that u can't tell someone who to like, and i wish it were possible to just stop liking someone but it's too hard and it's annoying.

and y go guys think that girls bitch so much, when i think that guys bitch the same amount if not a little bit less than girls?

i know that you can't tell someone who to like, but it really annoys me when i find out that someone likes the same person as me, even when it makes no difference whether or not i get annoyed. however, i am happy for them. when in that situation, i try to help the other person on as much as i can, and forget about myself. of course, this isnt always a good thing, but its how i seem to work.

everyone bitches about everyone else. its how we work

yes and look where it's got you now nystery_editor <_< well i can't say much for myself about that anyway. it'll work out, don't worry.

yeah yeah... thats what i keep telling you!!!

sorry, matter in real life here :heh:

anyway, back on topic: you just gotta have confidence to go and do it. simple as that

okies.. me and my friend have a strange little girl problem thing.. anywho.. it might be obvious, but not to us XD

well.. me friend likes this girl... and so he writes a few blogs mentioning a girl.. and she reads it... anywhoo... one day, they are talking, and she says "would you be intimidated if we go out" then me friend says "erhh... no" anywayz.. so after a little bit she says "if you are going to ask me out, do it now.. ill give you 5 minutes"
so he was scared and was stuck frozen.. as every minute goes by she would say "4minutes left"
and so as by the last minute he panicked and quickly said "how about friday after your class we can go grab some lunch?" and then she says "nah im ok" then she goes offline!! WTH!

and as for me.. well.. an-kun! i did it!!!
anyhoo.. so i asked this girl out.. and an-kun has been telling me to ask her out.. and its been like... a while now XD so yay! i finally did it
so i ask her.. and what happends? she smiles and says "awwwww" (as in.. like a really cute way XD) and then she kicks me... (friendly kick) and she keeps smiling and like.. she didn say anything ><"
then a friend walks in.. and yeah...
so does that mean she likes me too? or... she thought it was cute and wanted to kick me? ><"

Toki, I hate to say it but your friend likes a b****. But you know having the power in a relationship does funny things to a person. I have a friend at the moment who has been going out with another friend of mine. She doesn't want to keep going out with him but.... okay I'm going to have to explain the whole situation.
A little over a year ago my friend, let us call her Sally, asked my other friend out, let us call him Jeff. Jeff went out with her and they fell in love. Earlier this year Sally decided that she wasn't in love with Jeff anymore and dumped him. Jeff was still in love with Sally and kept asking her to get back together with him. Sally finally agreed and they started going out again.
A little while ago would have been their one year aniversary, Jeff had decided to ignore the two weeks that Sally had dumped him for. Jeff had organised for them to go to the beach for a weekend by themselves. Sally however decided that it would be a good time to break up with him again.
Jeff still asked her to come on the weekend though, as friends, and Sally agreed. I warned them against it but they still went. Anyway. So they went to the beach and at some point it turned into a make out session. Sally just refers to it as a weekend fling but Jeff still really likes her and still wants to be together. Sally knows all of this. She wants to still be his friend but she doesnt want to get back together with him. This is really cruel because she knows how Jeff feels.
The thing is that she has the power in the relationship and whereas normally she is a very kind person who would do the right thing for both of them she isn't.

It is really hard but your friend should just try to get over her. Though I know that saying it doesn't really help.

Um squiggle your friend went out with the guy before so that's a different scenario. toki hasn't been out with this girl yet.

The story is cute and its great that you finally listened to me toki.....took your time though.XD I'd say stick with what i told you earlier and ask her what her feelings are straight and to the point. That way you can be sure.

But I'm not talking about toki :huh: I'm talking about his friend. And if the girl he likes knows, or strongly suspects, that he likes her then it does put her in a similar position of power.

Oh right, I see. Apparently in all relationships, one person loves the other more. I read that somewhere but I don't think it's always true.

hrmm.. well ill try to go further with the girl i like.. but like for me friend.. so... does that mean she likes him.. or not..?

I would personally advise that even if she did like him, which I doubt, he would be better off steering clear of her.

For your friend, the girl he likes is just not interested.

i hate it when love is not returned... its giving without receiving

Everyone needs chocolate. Best remedy for screwed up relationships. *hands out chocolate*

i dunno. i think that talking is the best cure *takes chocolate and stuffs it in mouth* of course, chocolate is good too

i think that relying on someone else is a good thing in times of worry etc.

But it can be really hard on the person that you rely on. If they tell you sonething you don't like then you tend to blow your head off at them. It is much better for everyone to have chocolate.

well that's true, but i am here if u want to talk mystery_editor. yeah chocolate does help. well with ur friends Sally and Jeff, i think it'd be crueler to Jeff if Sally went out with him because she felt sorry for him. i mean, u said she doesn't feel the same way, does jeff know that? cause it's cruel to go out with someone just because u feel sorry for them. yes well, relying on someone can be good but also annoying. i do rely on about 2 to 5 people overall in anything, in other words there is 5 people i can tell everything, but for some weird reason, most of them are guys. am i the only girl here that finds it eaiser to talk to guys than girls?

well, i'm probably not the only guy who finds it easier to talk to girls as upposed to guys here...

no you're not- and i dont think its just a guy thing either- some girls i talk to find it easier talking to guys than other girls. im taking a stab in the dark here because its probably different for everyone, but i think it may have something to do with the feeling of judgement and competition? a guy is scared of showing anything that he doesnt think is very masculine behaviour in front of other guys and likewise girls are scared of showing anything 'unfeminine' in front of other girls? not that it's a conscious thing, its just an inbuilt subconscious instinct not to show anything you consider a weakness in front of same sex members?? hence it being easier to talk to people of the opposite sex?

yeah.. i actually find it easier talking to girls than guys.. i dont know why
well i have been friends with heaps of girls ever since i was young.. so i guess i got use to them more? i dunno...
*eats choccie*

yeah.. i actually find it easier talking to girls than guys.. i dont know why
well i have been friends with heaps of girls ever since i was young.. so i guess i got use to them more? i dunno...
*eats choccie*

yeah.. if you're used to be friends with girls a long time

interesting topic.. I didn't read all the posts but, if I'm going to make this short, someone mentioned earlier that people react different towards love.. that's just a matter of fact. I haven't really found someone I like or love myself but I do know how hard it is to reject someone :\. Atleast for me.. I don't want to hurt that person. I just feel bad when I don't fulfil that person's expectations, well that's me. My thoughts Alone.

BTW I'm a boy. :whistle:

XD good to clear things up in the beginning. I usually mistake genders :heh:

@stormchild13. But the sad thing is that now Sally has decided to go out with Jeff again for exactly that reason. And whenever I try to talk to either of them they bite my head off. I am, just for the record, being as reasonable as anyone in my position can be. It still bites the bullet though. *eats more choccies*