It happens. You're not interested in the person, or your heart was broken by someone else, it doesn't matter. What matters is that someone loves you deeply, but sadly you can't say the same [now, this is from a viewpoint of someone who hates to lie to those he loves]. Suppose, just suppose, that you know its all over - you can never love again. But one person loves you, and it is in your power to make him believe that you love him too - to give him all s/he desires; your feelings won't be exactly pure, but you CAN force yourself to love him, even if deep inside your heart you don't. Will you?

In your hands is the power to make one person happy, or to break his heart - just like yours... of course, you would be deceiving both yourself and him/her, and doing something that you would never dream of doing to someone you love - lying...

Would you?

I've done it before. It's not a pretty outcome in the end although I think the girl in question was not totally in love with me. I never really had a "date" with the girl so maybe that doesn't count. <shrugs>

I don't think you would have expected that answer straight away XD. :P

Actually, my heart tells me that it depends. However if I was in this situation and I never liked this person more than a friend, then no. Not even if I was desperate. I'm not the guy who lies to someone that easily, and I already know that if i pretend to like someone, we both will get hurt emotionally eventually. False Hopes is not what I want to see in this world. All I want is truth in this already corrupted world. Even if it hurts or not. I dont want to be misled to my own faults or sadness. That would instead make me hate myself even more.

Actually, my heart tells me that it depends. However if I was in this situation and I never liked this person more than a friend, then no. Not even if I was desperate. I'm not the guy who lies to someone that easily, and I already know that if i pretend to like someone, we both will get hurt emotionally eventually. False Hopes is not what I want to see in this world. All I want is truth in this already corrupted world. Even if it hurts or not. I dont want to be misled to my own faults or sadness. That would instead make me hate myself even more.

hrmm.. i once was loved (maybe still am).. returned the love from me heart... but, it was all false hopes (in a way)
hrmm.. ANYWAYZ!!

Not even if I was desperate

I think you misunderstood me. You're doing this not for yourself, but so that the person who loves you can be happy (in your case - to make your close friend happy, to give him/her all s/he desires. to make his/her dreams finally come true - to be with you)

I wouldn't be able to do it. It would hurt me to lie like that to that person that cares so much, while I don't feel the same.

Love hurts unfortunatley, and I wouldn't be able to keep someone in the shadow like that.

NMO: A broken heart is better than a frozen heart.

what does NMO mean?

I think you misunderstood me. You're doing this not for yourself, but so that the person who loves you can be happy (in your case - to make your close friend happy, to give him/her all s/he desires. to make his/her dreams finally come true - to be with you)
I still refer to my original answer. No. The reason why is again posted in my last post. My last post was both directed toward myself, and toward the person who loved me.

"I would find you happiness, but not at a cost of anything." ~Hiei

"Finding happiness within a person(s) might require some obstacles to be removed, but cannot infect another person that has does not want to be a part of the chain in the process. That could ruin the chain of happiness inflicting doubt and anger toward each other in the end." ~Hiei

what does NMO mean?Not My Opinion?

Decieve em to make em feel better only to have em find out you were stringin em along at a alter date that would destroy them? hell no, unless it was someone I really hated & wanted to crush of course, if not someone to crush then I'd just tell em straight

Oh my god. I am sorry to get offtopic but Hawq, when you say em please use 'em instead. It annoys me first of all, and second of all I mistake em for me as a common typo. Please use 'em so it grammatically correct and easier to read.

could u live with lying to yourself of really loving the person? a false sense of love is worse than not loving at all

I'm actually in that exact situation right now. I don't know what to do, but whatever. :heh:

i've been in that situation twice.. it is not fun
and the best thing to do is be honest to urself and the other person. they'll be hurt at first, but they'll move on and understand, that u did it to make them happy, but it didn't work for u and that they'd probably be happier to know that u at least were honest about everything in the end.

Well.. I'm a victim of that myself.. and he decided to try anyways.. though he's never told me he's loved me, he's always holding me and kissing me. Even though I love it when he does that, it still hurts to know that he doesnt love me back. So I say no. I wouldn't do that.

what if the acting was really good, and you never would have guessed it?

For the other person, it's all fine. But for the one pretending, you're just digging one big hole for yourself.

You can fool someone most of the time.

You can fool everyone some of the time.

But you can't fool everyone all of the time.

right... but, "you" will be fooling only one person, for the whole time, and you're doing thisfor him/her... so that at least SHE can be happy

@Yoshinobu: why do you say that?

Right... but, "you" will be fooling only one person, for the whole time, and you're doing this for him/her... so that at least SHE can be happy.In my humble opinion I have always thought that this one person one can fool most if not all of the time is oneself.

I think one-sided crushes occur alot.And people pick themselves up, learn from it, and move on, or try to move on. If you were that person being lied to,surely you would want your bf/gf to have genuine feelings for you, instead of putting up a permanently good show?

To think that you will mean everything to that person for the rest of his/her life, is quite, well, presumptious. If you make it clear to the person, the person might nurse a broken heart for a while, but he/she will then be free to meet a person who truly loves him/her. Wouldn't that make everyone happier instead?

And besides, what if you meet another person who decides he/she loves you as well, while you are in this pseudo-relationship? Who are you going to hurt now?

It would be a mockery of love if couples got together just because they didn't want to hurt the other party. :\

I am okay with it, as long as the one that really loves you doesn't find out. I mean, if the person that loves you finds out, they would think that you were just using them to try and have sex with them, or to make out in public to show off to your friends. But really, I don't think they will find out unless someone tells them. >.> If they find out, then it could end horribly, but if you are very to it, and really doing it to make them feel better, they won't find out.

Ahh this died. Must bring back to life.

But I have been in this predicument before and it really isn't that hard. play along and then when ever they actually got to know me then they hated me. ppl just hate me. I'm annoying and then they go running away so yeah I would try not to hurt there feelings and pretend to love them.

I'm definitely interested in someone.

VERY!!

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And that person is? j/k

Well, as for me, I've been a target. An event that changed my life forever...
good news is that we're good friends
bad news, I still can't get over her so it's pretty awkward when she's around.