Have they ever worked for you? Of course, a situation where you chat on msn everyday with a camera attached isn't exactly what I have in mind, since in my country that's pretty rare (except in the Capital). A lot of times it's with a person in another city, who you can meet only once every half a year. maybe. I find that these relationships never seem to work (at least for me) - mostly we had to use sms to talk, and to tell you the truth - after seeings words month after month without hearing her voice... just doesn't work

comments, opinions?

I guess the couple will have to really trust each other, because you can't monitor them 24/7...infact...check this - http://wimp.com/cheater/ but yeah. Don't know, never had one, not planning to~

dont work, seen them happen. one goes off to nui, other stays. stresses both out one fears cheating, someone isnt totaly honest. ends in heartbreak, breaks up

too many times ive seen it happen.

but there is light as one around here is going strong after 2 years people

I have yet to experience such strong attraction for another person that I can forego the many hundreds, if not thousands of eligible and legal partners in the immediate vicinity.

It matters, like are you saying "Long Distant Relationships" like, you have never met before, besides online and you start liking each other, or are you saying like, you met them before, are going out, but then one of you two moved, but you still continue your relationship online?

I have yet to experience such strong attraction for another person that I can forego the many hundreds, if not thousands of eligible and legal partners in the immediate vicinity.

well, you fall for one of those so-called "legal partners", and then she you find out that she lives in another state/city and, viola, long distance relationship. Unless you have the ability to lose interest in any person that doesn't live in your neighborhood...

Unless you have the ability to lose interest in any person that doesn't live in your neighborhood...I lose interest in any person that is not immediately available when I want them.

But for some, knowing that the person you care about is alive and doing well, can help them get through the time. Also, being away from the person you love can deepen your feelings, and it makes you treasure the moments that you are and will be together. But for those who fear that they might be cheating, believe in your love. Whether or not she/he is cheating, your love for each other will be judged...be it good or bad results.

Well, Zeus lives in Aus, I live in the UK - we met over a forum, and have been going out for 3 years this September. So there's a success story to prove you all wrong ;)

Woot woot Go maz!! (oooh you and zeus eh?? had no idea!)

Well, Zeus lives in Aus, I live in the UK - we met over a forum, and have been going out for 3 years this September. So there's a success story to prove you all wrong ;)
I'm not against your case, I believe that Long Distance can work, it just depends on the people. :)

Well, Zeus lives in Aus, I live in the UK - we met over a forum, and have been going out for 3 years this September. So there's a success story to prove you all wrong ;)To each their own. I met the majority of my partners in person, but I confess I've been toning down somewhat because both of my flatmates are devout Protestants.

It think they can work if the two people like each other enough.

You can use the phone to hear someone's voice though, Alone.

me and my boyfriend are trying to carry on a Long distance relationship, he went off to university 1 week ago. Right now were still trying to get used to the fact that we don't see each other most of the time out of a week. to be honest, it's pretty damn hard, and akward, I just noticed how much more free time I recently gained.

But in short, It can work, if the two people both really love each other enough to be able to endure the distance.

Waste of time in my opinion. if they are going off to college to get a life, leave them be. If they are moving cross-state for good, leave them be, in less than a month they will break up with you over the phone. If you have never set eyes on them, drop it, they very well may be cheating, and it isn't a risk I would want to take, infact, I wouldn't even call it a risk, I would call it a waste of time >.> You can't love someone you have never felt before. No matter what you say, it isn't possible.

Then, lets say you screw that whole theory, and do it anyways, go out with someone online, that you have never seen. Regardless off what you think, they could be a 40 year old pervert, jacking off to words. Then, if you screw that idea, what is going to happen when you get too busy to go online? Or when you go to college, and get busy, then what? Why, I'll tell you what. You drop him, forget about him, be ashamed of yourself for doing something so time wasting.

I actually online date myself. =] Just for experience, really. But if does get somewhere then I'd be happy

If you have never set eyes on them, drop it, they very well may be cheating, and it isn't a risk I would want to take, infact, I wouldn't even call it a risk, I would call it a waste of time >.> You can't love someone you have never felt before. No matter what you say, it isn't possible.

Then, lets say you screw that whole theory, and do it anyways, go out with someone online, that you have never seen. Regardless off what you think, they could be a 40 year old pervert, jacking off to words. Then, if you screw that idea, what is going to happen when you get too busy to go online? Or when you go to college, and get busy, then what? Why, I'll tell you what. You drop him, forget about him, be ashamed of yourself for doing something so time wasting.
Life is a Risk, Love is a Risk. A lot of things are a risk, but...if you dont take the risk, you would never really know about the truth. Even if you are let down once, you can never really predict what's going to happen next. Its like one of my favorite sayings, "The only dependable thing about the future is uncertainty."

...Also, not everything can be put into physical communication, Feelings aren't a visible thing....though Feelings, at times, can be most explained in words. The thing is, we are all humans in the end, just like you, Asuka, are talking to us, we are talking to you. We don't all know that you are the same person that posted yesterday, but whether or not you are the same person, you still posted your thoughts, using your time. :)

You can't love someone you have never felt before. No matter what you say, it isn't possible.

No matter what a 12 year old prick like you say, it IS possible and if you don't believe it you can go and screw yourself, okay?

@Asuka - having a long distance relationship doesn't mean you've necessarily met them on the internet. Um I'm sure a girl would think you're a pervert if you started touching them when you've just met them. You may not think it works, I may not think it works, but I know that it has worked for some people so that's all the proof I need. More and more ADULTS use the internet to date because they don't have time and some hit it off.

Waste of time in my opinion. if they are going off to college to get a life, leave them be. If they are moving cross-state for good, leave them be, in less than a month they will break up with you over the phone.

I don't agree with you, yes they may go to college/university to get a life, but not all instances mean that you can't have a proper relationship. Some people are able to visit their significant other from time to time, if the two people trust each other, and love each enough to endure something like that, there should be no problems keeping the relationship together.


Or when you go to college, and get busy, then what? Why, I'll tell you what. You drop him, forget about him, be ashamed of yourself for doing something so time wasting.

Life is about taking chances, and not everything works out perfectly. When you date someone, you put your heart on the line, people make mistakes, after all nobody is perfect.

I think long distance dating is for desperate and cowardly people. :heh:

I think long distance dating is for desperate and cowardly people. :heh:
And many think talking with people you don't even know on the internet in a forum is for desperate and cowardly people too, But it isnt. =| ...The thing is people are different, people have different interest and dislikes. I view any relationship online, as any relationship in person. And Marlon, people HAVE the right to think whatever they want, but people calling other people names for the way they do certain things, is cowardly and childish, and a few other things...but I try not to curse when in public. ^_^

I think long distance dating is for desperate and cowardly people. :heh: o_O I'm used to hearing people say the long distance tests the relationship to the utmost and et cetera, but this is a first, o_O

hmm..perhaps i should try online dating...

but not at the moment. :\

:shifty:

I think long distance dating is for desperate and cowardly people. :heh:

Can you elaborate on that because I don't see how it's cowardly, it's so much harder then non long-distance relationships.

Can you elaborate on that because I don't see how it's cowardly, it's so much harder then non long-distance relationships.

There's a difference between difficulty and cowardliness. And I meant to say "usually," because "usually" is usually true. :\

and you cant take a person that lives soo far away from you to prom.
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and you cant take a person that lives soo far away from you to prom.
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true, but: storytime My friend's boyfriend (over the net, lives in England) came to Canada for like a month to take her to prom

I never went because instead I got stuck in an elevator at an anime convention XD

back on topic now

Hmm... I dunno. I suppose I could talk about my long distance relationship. But most people already know about it... so should I post it anyways??

Everyone is authorized to their own opinion. but please elaborate on why they think that because if they're assuming that's it's just.. for lack of words, "weird" to online date, put some facts to support it. That probably didn't make much sense becuase I'm really tired. But hopefully you all know what I mean.

I think online relationships are fine. It does really test your loyalty to a certain person though. And to be honest, I don't see how it's being desperate and cowardly. It actoully takes a lot more courage to trust someone on the other side of the world than to tell a preson you like them IRL.

Then, lets say you screw that whole theory, and do it anyways, go out with someone online, that you have never seen. Regardless off what you think, they could be a 40 year old pervert, jacking off to words. Then, if you screw that idea, what is going to happen when you get too busy to go online? Or when you go to college, and get busy, then what? Why, I'll tell you what. You drop him, forget about him, be ashamed of yourself for doing something so time wasting.

im pretty curious how a discussion about long distance relationships became an online relationships discussion...

^for one, Asuka doesn't have a clue what he's talking about, as always

besides.... online relationships are LDR's, aren't they?

I think long distance dating is for desperate and cowardly people. :heh:

I think you're an idiot who has no idea what they are talking about <.<;;

Why would it be cowardly? That doesnt make sense.
Its not always that the right person happens to be within your area.

"absence makes the heart grow fonder..." (check spelling?)

Long distant relationships doesnt necessarily have to be online relationships, for example, a couple met through work etc, but then one has to go abroad to work for a couple years, thats a long distant relationship! but it CAN BE maintianed by chatting/communicating via the internet....which its NOT an online relationship!!



I think long distance dating is for desperate and cowardly people. :heh:

i think you meant online there!

but then again....online relationships doesnt mean the people are "usually" desperate/coward ones.....as there are some people who are so shy that they couldnt go and express how they feel about a person they like face to face, therefore through online dating, it means they can avoid the immediate reaction of the other person as well as saving much embarrasments if they rejected you, and the best thing is....you can block/ignore them without much hassle!!

as for long distance relationships, its just like any relationships, minus the frequent times you see the person and the comfort they give you physically...among some other things as well of course, but it is a good practice to take in building up the true feelings you have for that person, as it would help you to see clearer whether you really do like that person or not!

/me agrees with dark magician

I honestly could not have said it better myself

long distance, im willing to give it a try

DM makes it hard to add anything

mah if the girl's that imporant to you, distance doesn't matter, what matters is the feelings you express to each other

long distance, im willing to give it a try

DM makes it hard to add anything

:heh: sorry!!

Lol second that. I couldn't have said it better myself. Besides, I have a hard time getting my thoughts down on paper. In this case, The net.

i think you meant online there!

but then again....online relationships doesnt mean the people are "usually" desperate/coward ones.....as there are some people who are so shy that they couldnt go and express how they feel about a person they like face to face, therefore through online dating, it means they can avoid the immediate reaction of the other person as well as saving much embarrasments if they rejected you, and the best thing is....you can block/ignore them without much hassle!!

as for long distance relationships, its just like any relationships, minus the frequent times you see the person and the comfort they give you physically...among some other things as well of course, but it is a good practice to take in building up the true feelings you have for that person, as it would help you to see clearer whether you really do like that person or not!

I did mean online, come to think of it! :heh:

@Angelic: Don't you dare call me an idiot!!! :ranting:

Angelic shoouldn't have called you that, but that was a really trite and stupid thing you said. It doesn't really matter if you meant 'long distance' or 'online', that comment wasn't appropriate. Who are you to judge how and where people meet?

Just saying... Geesh! <_<

You could atleast admit your fault...

What's the difference between online and long distance anyway? Isn't an online relationship just one sort of long distance relationship?

Exactly - online's just another LDR with its own ways...... just like everything else.

i dont know an online relationship only turns into longdistance when you have met the person i feel...i think atthat point it crosses a threshhold so to speak

My friends the met online are now living together and just waiting for the right time to get engaged. Even if there aren't many online couples that would end up like that, doesn't nessecarily mean none.

What's the difference between online and long distance anyway? Isn't an online relationship just one sort of long distance relationship?

An online relationship is easier to manage, since its always possible to see/hear/talk to your partner via camera and IM. Long distance relationships are void of this, since its only 'phone'. In my opinion, just because you have met your online partner it doesn't make it a LD relationship - its still mostly online

Online relationships are still fscking hard to maintain though, and yes, I can know.

nobody's doubting that - its just that when I get to thinking how easier it would be if I could just see her face at least once a week (__).

Hell, distance relationships are always hard to maintain, and not because you don't trust each other (as some of you here think). Even with trust its hard as hell...

You know what's really hard? A LD relationship without internet and the other person is ignoring their phone. Like what I'm having right now.

same here: no phone or internet and only sms! why the hell do you think i started this thread in the first place...

The point is that if the other doesn't even carry her phone with her it all becomes even worse than it already is x_x always makes me scared something's gone wrong.

Don't be scared if you didn't do anything wrong. She might just be busy, right? =]

Whenever I get a txt I reply right away unless I'm 1) driving or 2) in class. I know that she wasn't doing either of those XP ah well, matter sorted out. No Spoonpuppets till monday, life is cruel :(

I've got an online longish-distance relationship coming up to a year now... December 2004 we met on a forum... :heh: I feel like such an idiot... but hey, just goes to show that even the young people can have success on long-distance/online relationships :)

the worse bit is just after youve seen them and wont be able to again for a while

that is so true X_X

Talking on the phone is really nice though *feels much better again* =D

my phone lines are out. :(

yeah... its nothing like feeling dissconected to the one you care about. No matter if they are far or close

Another two of my friends went on the brak after they got to meet eachother.. they said online just doesn't cut it after that. But yeh, Angelic, you and your girlfriend might actually get to where my other two friends are right now. Living together and almost engaged =] good luck~

talking on te phone is nice, it does make me smile...but each day is empty again

lol we should consider ourselves lucky: imagine, in 50 years time "long distance relationships" will probably mean Earth <-> Mars...

i guess... we should be grateful ^_^ (think "Hoshi no Koe")

I've really only been in two long distance relationships. I am referring to a relationship where we were bf/gf and moved away for an extended period of time and still considered ourselves in a relationship.

The first time I was in a long distance relationship was when I was still in high school and I didn't have the courage to break up with him before I moved away. (You can tell that we were pretty flawed from the start). While I was away for about two months we had very poor communication (we only sent each other 2-3 letters and rarely talked on the phone). When I came back he told me that he was with another girl. Obviously, that didn't work out.

The second time was pretty soon thereafter. That being said, I as single for a few months inbetween. (I had proper recovery time!) I got into the relationship November of 2006 and in June '07 I moved away. We talked on the phone everyday and sent about 50 emails a day back and forth. Pretty ridiculous, but we missed each other terribly. We were apart until September 2007. When he was there to greet me at the airport I'd never been so nervous in all my life. I was excited but since it had been so long since I had seen him it was like we were on our first date all over again XD. Anyway, 5 years later we are still together.

Now, the other kind of relationship that was really popular to talk about in this thread is where you learn about the person via the Internet, whether it be through a dating site or a social networking site, but ultimately you're restricted to only a few kinds of communicating. I've gone through many of these, a lot of which were when I was too young and didn't understand what I did and did not want from a relationship.

More often times than not, I find myself cheering for those who are willing to take on the challenges of a long distance relationship. But, I also have looming doubts that it will ultimately work out.

Now I hope that HopelessComposer and Whiplash will talk about their situations too!

Old thread revivals! :D

Recently, I've had two actually. In late April of this year I started dating this girl, though I never really had strong feelings for her from the start, I was just bored and lonely. Honestly, it was just a bad idea from the start. I knew I'd be gone all summer with an internship, but I figured I'd see how things went. Halfway through my internship she broke things off. It wasn't a big deal at all though, I had a pretty good idea it would happen before things ever got started, and it was a shallow relationship, so, no feelings were hurt.

For the last three weeks I've been in another long-distance relationship, which I actually just ended tonight. It's a long story though, and super complicated. Maybe I'll write it all out later.

It RARELY work...

Eh, I've been in a long distance relationship.

Lasted about a year then he dumped me after (last) Valentine's day. Pretty much not going to get into something like that again, it hurt and made me feel like crap for a while (hell, I still feel like crap every once and a while.)

yep it Never Work

First you say rarely, now you say never. WHY DON'T YOU JUST MAKE UP YOUR MIND? THERE'S A LOT RIDING ON THIS.

Still works for me even though she's been in Japan for the past... well, almost two years :P