Some people concider my family rich, but we arnt. Our whole family works really hard for what we have, especialy my own family.

My dad works 12 hours a day, 6-7 days a week and gets 2-3 weeks off a year. He gets $3000 a month to support a family of 5, and hasnt gotten a raise in 10 years.

My mom works 5 days a week, two jobs at a time. One is a minum wage job that she only keeps for insurance rights, and another is her carrer, cutting hair.

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My problem is that allmost all that money goes to bills. Our mom needs lasiceye surgery done, which will cost about $3600. Things in our house are breaking and stuff. Most reacently, our fridge is on the fritz. After a while of disscussing on what to do, we went to sleep. I later go back downstairs to find my mom, sitting in frount of the fridge, looking at it on the verge of crying. I dont know why, but I can only guess its a finacial problem. I care greatly for my mom. My whole family takes her for granted, and I try my best to show her that I dont.

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My problem is that, I have no where to pour my feelings out. Im worried about our family, if we will make it as is. MY mom already said we are only squeezing by with what we have. I can only tell Ichigo's my problems saddly.

I just want to say thank you Ichigos for listening to my problems. I would have killed my self if I couldnt pour out my emotions here. Literaly. Its because of everyone here I have learned to be more open about things, I didnt go crazy about keeping my latent Homosexuality inside, and learned to argue the right way.

thank you.

It takes inordinate ammounts of courage to pour your feelings out to complete strangers. Even if we are a community, it's still relatively anonymous. Bravo to you, I say. Keep on keepin' on. I sincerely hope for the best.

Thank you. All the hopes and prays I get feel nice. Even though Im not a beleaver in this kind of thing, I just like the cuddly feeling of being cared for, even by utter strangers.

Personally I think you're a bit crazy to put up how much your parents earn but under the circumstances I see why you're doing this. You're good to your parents. Make sure you support them. Maybe you should get a part-time job to help them. And don't kill yourself...it'll only make things worse for your parents. that's all my advice.

I know how you feel. More importantly you have your family with you even at times of difficulty.

Look at my family. A mother who gets drunk and smokes everyday who tries to commit suicide and cut herself everytime she gets the chance to isnt a good sight. Infact I dont even care about my mother anymore. She's bringing to much pain to this family. Infact, I dont even have a family anymore. I dont have a father, and I only live with my grandparents. Its scary to see things happening to someone you love everyday, but you can tell my pain when I no longer cared of my mother.

its nice to know that you have us caring for you... so remember to reassure your parents that you care for them too
so you have 5 siblings? wow! is any of you old enough to get a part time job to help assist with your parents?

and im kinda half living like you and half like hiei...
currently i have no family, well i do... but we are having heaps of problems... my dad has moved out and im hating my mum more each day... it was all her fault that my dad moved out
and now we are having problems with the house bills because my mum doesnt make enough money to pay everything off.. and we aint getting help frm my dad because my mum doesnt want his help.. and i dunno.. its weird...
and so now me and me bro have a job to try pay some bills.. but also my brother is trying to buy my dad a house so that he doesnt have to live with other strangers and also he is saving up to buy me a car (which i dont really need... but he just wants to lol)

but yeah, all to the best for you RD! itll all work out soon enough... just hang on and be there for each other!

its nice to know that you have us caring for you... so remember to reassure your parents that you care for them too
so you have 5 siblings? wow! is any of you old enough to get a part time job to help assist with your parents?

NO! Its a family of five TOTAL, my parents, 2 brothers and I XD

Im sobbing right now..My dad doesnt know my age, and he threatns me and provoks our brothers to fight. He yells at me and yells more for crying. He doesnt accpet that he isnt the only one with stress. I start to sob..

He threatned to beat me at 18...I cant stand it. Why?! Its not fair. I dont know what to do other then cry..Its just so hard for me..Im 15 in his eyes...

his hard on you for a reason. he is trying to make you stronger and stuff.. its hard to explain

like, my little cousin, when he was a toddler and stuff my uncle would yell at him.. then me cousin would start crying. then my uncle would yell and hit my cousin saying "stop crying!"
but it was weird, how can a kid stop crying if he is being hit...?

but i guess in the future, me cousin wont cry as often because he has become stronger..?

and as for your dad not knowing your age... dont worry.. my dad doesnt know mine either
infact, my parents know shit about me...
they say mothers know when their kid is lying, mothers know their favourite food and fav colour
my mum only knows my fav colour coz i asked for my room to be painted that colour...

and you might be missinterpreting your dad... or your dad isnt communicating very well
your dad just doesnt want you to worry... he sees you still being young and not needing to worry too much about their problems

adults tend to be stubborn... so although your dad isnt understanding you, you need to understand your dad
and there isnt much point in telling your dad how you understand how he feels.. as i said, adults are stubborn...

i find its best to keep out of their way, but support them from behind

Crying leaves you open for more weakness and punishment. If your 18, you must argue back to your parents if you think they are wrong to treat you this way. Stand up for yourself. You are not a child no longer. You must act like an individual even if your afraid of it. If he threatens to beat you, just get out of the house and sleep over at a friends. You have to learn to be strong, because its the real world out there. Its not like High School. Its not like what teachers tell you. Its a harsh cold world and you must understand yourself. I've been under more stress than you and I have not cried because of it. Doesnt mean that I'm stronger.

You must stop crying and face everything that comes to you. Its not going to come on a silver platter and expect your parents to slice your problems into small pieces for you to chew on. You must learn to cut them yourself and take the pain.

I honestly dont reall ythink your father is teaching you to be strong. Threatening people isnt the way to go. If you stopped crying maybe he wouldnt threaten you. He's probably afraid that your weak.

Dude, stand up and face everything. Be strong. Your 18, arent you? Your three years older than me then. I've seen alot of things. Experienced them too. You must learn and move on, not stay and cry about the past that cannot be reversed.

:cry: I like that you can open up and let your feelings pour out of you like water out of a pitcher. I admire you for who you are.I can't talk to anyone either, I just try my best to keep everything inside of me. As far as anyone knows, I'm as happy as a kitty taking a nice long nap. I hate living my life the way I am. Most of the time I just come home and cry because nobody is home. One time tried to...hurt myself but I couldn't do it because I've seen many mothers cry over dead sons and daughters, incuding my own. You see I live in a city where its normal to hear cars racing in the night, or to hear the sound of a gun shot, then the soud of a scream. If you live in southern California you might of heard of a shooting in 2001 at Hueneme high, that's where I go to school. Not to long ago, my cuzin was shot in the head and nearly died and all he was doing was driving home from work. Its sad to live in a place like I do, do any of you live in a place like I do?

I severely hope Radical Dreamer that you're not being another Lord Pent with his made up story of his mum...it pissed off every moderator, admin and everyone else...

To give you advice on this. I believe you want attention. I have no idea why or the background of such a circumstance of how this came about but to be fair you have made a significant percentage of the threads in this forum. I may sound harsh but some problems in life you have to deal on your own. People can tell you what to do but it's you that has to live though it and carry out all the actions. Understand that a person cannot have attention all the time. You can't realistically live your life on a forum so you shouldn't get too attached to it. People will come and go. It's like being stuck in a time machine. A lot of dads forget their son's age. My dad doesn't remember how old I am either. Also dads can be immature which is why he provokes you lot to fight. I've experienced a lot of what you say and you know what the answer is? Just get on with life. Crying relieves you of emotional stress but it doesn't get anything else done. It's a harsh world out there. It's always you against the world. Everyone has to be strong to survive. Be strong. Accept what you have and get on with life. (sorry if I sound offensive, but really it's true)

RD is 18?? I thought she's 13...1992 right?

wow..that sound like china. I can understand you because my cousin's dad gets only $500 chinese a month, and his mom is the only one who can support the family barely. An-Kun, these things happens because my cousin's family is doing actually worse than RD's family, and in China there are many families that are doing really bad, and government is not helping them.

But what i'm wondering is. Where do you live? In north american countries, don't you get benefits if your income is low? At least in Canada, low income families gets tax deduction and sometimes grants. I don't know...but i can feel your pain, is there a way of asking relatives for support financially or something?

edit: I think you have an advantage compare to my cousin in the sense that if you have older siblings, as soon as they can work, they can help the family a bit. Whereas my cousin's family has no support until my COUSIN is able to work. So think positive in times like this, i think you are sad right now it's because your family is not confidence enough. Our family is going through tough times now too, but we're all together and supporting each other. I think another main part is to let your parents realize that this is also a mental challenge, and that the 5 of you have to support each other instead of beating up each other, think about it, seriously, they have time to think about beating you when your 18?? Tell them to think positive

Im a he, Im 13. I was being threatned to be beat when I turn 18.

My dad is a bit crazy. Doesnt know good from wrong. He threaned to do many things before. Kick my brothers and I out of the car in the middle of no where on a drive home, he tried to burn my hair...crazy man.

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An-kun, im not that kind of person.

Im a he, Im 13. I was being threatned to be beat when I turn 18.

My dad is a bit crazy. Doesnt know good from wrong. He threaned to do many things before. Kick my brothers and I out of the car in the middle of no where on a drive home, he tried to burn my hair...crazy man.

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An-kun, im not that kind of person.

My step-father tried dropping me off in the middle of nowhere when I was 7. I had no idea why or what purpose it served, but I managed to get back into the car by some means. I dont remember alot.

We have crazy parents.

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And you know why my dad tried to burn my hair and drop my brothers and I off? Because the toilet was backed up, both times.

Im a he, Im 13. I was being threatned to be beat when I turn 18.

My dad is a bit crazy. Doesnt know good from wrong. He threaned to do many things before. Kick my brothers and I out of the car in the middle of no where on a drive home, he tried to burn my hair...crazy man.

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An-kun, im not that kind of person.

K. Sorry about that then. I've seen worse though. At least your parents keep you in the house. I know people where their parents actually disown them. It's harsh.

no offence RD, i know that its better to pour your emotions here than say that to your parents directly, but i wouldnt advie you to do that here! since its a forum for discussions, which is really hard for one to give you advice that you can take actions in, i know that people here have tried to help you out one way or another and to reassure you that youre not in the worse state etc etc...but the best thing is to blog it or something....its just....sometimes when people are trying to give you an advice on something, you may feel uncomfortable about it....so i would just blog it somewhere on the internet, just not here.....

but i just have to say one....no matter what happens, those are your parents, no matter how harsh or blah they treat you or the situations that they put you in, they are those who gave you life! i know it sounds stupid and maybe hard to accept, but you just hgave to love them no matter what, just like how they would love you if you have done something really wrong (thats just an eg, dont take it personally!!)

yea...blog it....dont let it be an open discussion! since you just want to get it out as i have read in the last bit of the first post!

and.....lighten up.....id youre depressed, go to Mood!! ....ok....im not gonna piss you off more! i'll let you decide for yourself!

wow, thats a pretty difficult problem. well i seriously can't relate to your situation since like i have never experienced something like that, and the only accpetable advice i can give would be the ones that others have given already.

but i want to say this

Don't go to bed wishing for a better tomorrow, because there will be a time when the better tomorrow was yesterday.

basicly put, try to see the good stuff in life, but hey, who am i to tell you how to life your life =] everyone is different, so everyone's story will be different, just think, relax, take time to realise the world around you and start creating your own life story. and enjoy life lol, we only have one chance at it ^^