Umm see there is this Girl I like but she lives in Utah. I visit Utah pretty much every vacation I get and stay there over the summer but I go to school in Nebraska. So I know that it wouldn't hurt to try but the thing is I don't go home for another three weeks. I want to ask her out in person but I won't be able to do that now and I don't want her to become unavalible before I get there to ask her. I don't want to ask here out over email because I hear thats what geeks and petifiles do.

Any pointers?

I think there may be a thread like this already. But yeah, I have the same thing going on with me now. It's kind of different if you think about it, for you. You have actually seen her she knows you and stuff, you're not a petifile. But I can understand why you would think it's kind of geeky. Have you ever given her any inclination that you liked her? Because if you have it shouldn't bother you to ask her online, but if this is a completly new aspect to your realationship, then how she looks at it all depends on her perception. Edit: By the way, I suggest asking her now that you are in person... just do it. The big deal isn't so much asking as it is enjoying and emoting with one another.

I know you are right but I don't know being there in person kindof adds something to it. and I think it might be kindof weird I have yet to ask anybody out:crybaby:

They did make a thread like this. Anyways, I'd say to ask her out in person whenever you can, NOT by e-mail.

Just my personal opinion. :heh:

Hmm...do you think it would be okay to ask her out over the phone.

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I personally don't like long distance relationships because they spoil it and in the future if you get to live by each other then you are used to not being able to rely on each other for certain situations. I don't see that as good.

Plus, it spoils a lot of it (It seems like I've been in a long distance relationship before XD). Yours sitution is far diffrent from mine. You get to see the one you like. The things is, I kinda imagine it as an on/off relationship(no offense or anything). An old saying goes "Amor de lojo es amor the pendejo". That is spanish and if you don't know is says: Love from afar is the love of a coward.

Please, don't do it over the phone or internet or writting. It may be easier but something said to the face has a lot more value. Plus if you ask her out while you aren't where she lives then...How are you gonna have the date?

Anyway, that is the advice of a twelve year old who has never been in a relation ship in her life so....The best advice I could give is that love isn't a game of the mind but more of a battle of the heart. I'm not gonna wish you good luck cause that isn't what you need...

It may be easier but something said to the face has a lot more value.

It may seem easier to say things, but the distance makes things a lot harder. I'm sure a few people can vouch for that.

To be honest... you're making waaay too big a deal about this. Remember, you have the rest of your life. It's not like if you have a boyfriend or girlfriend, you're destined to be married. It's not like after the first date or first kiss, you're stuck. If you like this girl, ask her out. She might not like the idea of the distance either. And with long distance relationships, you've got to have complete trust in one another. It's very easy for somebody to cheat on the other, if they're in a long distance relationship.

Yeah, yeah, I'm a bit pessimistic, haha, even though I'm in one myself. But still, a relationship should be an addition to your life, not a burden. If you're sitting there worrying your socks off about somebody you're "in love" with, and not able to live for yourself, is it really worth it?

I had more to say, but I think I've forgotten some of it, lol. I'll get back to it later...

I respect anyone who can handle a long distance relationship. To be so far away knowing you can never just decide to turn up on a day that your free or decide hey wanna go see a movie at the weekend. to have to wait until a certain date which is reasonably far away would kill me. Im a lovable guy, i love to be loved and enjoy all the sentimental side of things. but when i used to go even a week without seeing my ex I used to go mad lol. it would hurt alot, sure you could talk to them ubt nothings better than having them there in your arms.

To all those who are in a long distance relationship i take my hat off to you because those are more likely to be serious and long lasting relationships.

To be honest... you're making waaay too big a deal about this. Remember, you have the rest of your life. It's not like if you have a boyfriend or girlfriend, you're destined to be married. It's not like after the first date or first kiss, you're stuck.


I guess your right I called her last night asked her if she would like to go out on a date once I get home. she said yes^_^

I guess I did make a big deal out of this thanks for takeing the time.

She said yes, she said yes.^_^

Personally, If you really like her I think that you should ask her in person, not on the phone

Hmm...do you think it would be okay to ask her out over the phone.

I'd say face-to-face.

yeah, I read your thing a tad bit wrong. So my answer became a little misleading, I definitly think you should ask her in person (some reason I thought you meaning home was going away from her.. making you there now)

I think the sooner you do it, the better. I'm living in a long-distance relationship at the moment, and it's been going for about four, five months now. I think this is proof that it can work. We try and get in contact every day, through MSN, phone, email, whatever. Things seem to be working out okay. Last time I was him was about 3 months ago, which is sad, I know, but it's the best we can do. It's hard, and there are times where you'll see yourselves drifting appart, but you can't let it happen.

I think you two could work out perfectly if you just remember that you're still there for one another, and eventually, you won't be a phone-call away, but only and arms length...

I love my hubby ^.^

as long as you two have immense trust in each other, i say go for it.

Personally, If you really like her I think that you should ask her in person, not on the phone

Phone is fine, as long as you can hear the other's voice.