Someone I know, made a tanabata (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tanabata) wish early. She asked me if it is possible to have feelings for someone even if you've never met. Specifically she wished to know if you could have "true and real" feelings... :unsure:

You mean somoene you only talked to over internet or something?

That's the question I think, because she's thinking about having a relationship with a guy, and I disapprove. She wants me to feel better and let her date him so she wrote this on a wish tag at the library, and I'm staff there so I wanted to be the one to answer it.

Well, I met my girlfriend over the internet so I'll say it is possible. Still, there are a lot of risk attached to it, the internet is full of perverted bastards after all.

If she wants to date that guy, I personally don't see a problem. If she's ever going to meet up with him, have her to make sure he comes to her town (assuming they live in different places) so that she knows her way around very well, and make sure such a meetup takes place in a crowded place and her friends are closeby. That should kind of make it all a bit better I suppose :mellow:

I don't know... it seems like this wish was made to make me understand... and I just can't. It seems irrational to me -.-;

A lot of people meet over the internet nowadays. It's a modern way of meeting people. As long as your friend is sensible, you shouldnt' be too worried. If you're mature enough, things work out. It's a sensitive subject to try and interfere and could lead to problems with your friend if she gets too emotional. Angelic's advice is good. Also, she can ask the guy if it's ok to bring a friend along for a while. He might feel his trust is betrayed but paedophiles wouldn't take a risk to meet a kid with a friend.

You never know though, people might be different on the net from who they are in real life. You have to chat with them for a long time to be sure.

I think that it's possible, but it's just high-risk sometimes..........as you might have relied on first impressions and the person may not turn out to be who you think they are...................*multiple suggestions implied*

But i think it's cool to meet new people from all around the world through the internet!

And if u really do, it's so sweet!!!!

Yeah. I think so. As people stated before, It is very high risk. It's just so easy to lie on the internet about age, sex, criminal intentions etc... It would make it LESS dangerous if they met in a large group though.

Well, I met my girlfriend over the internet so I'll say it is possible. Still, there are a lot of risk attached to it, the internet is full of perverted bastards after all.

If she wants to date that guy, I personally don't see a problem. If she's ever going to meet up with him, have her to make sure he comes to her town (assuming they live in different places) so that she knows her way around very well, and make sure such a meetup takes place in a crowded place and her friends are closeby. That should kind of make it all a bit better I suppose :mellow:


if its not too personal... may i ask ... is spoony (is this spoonpuppet your talking about) your real wife? or girlfriend?
and... did you meet her over the internet?

I believe it is possible.

Yeah...maybe its just me but that sounds a little paranoid.

Hey Im going to the movies with some friend, wanna tag along?

People around you, fun time, get dinner/lunch/random Icecream or whatever to get to know the person and get an outside opinion on them.

To me it would be as simple as that.

Altho its (IMHO) possible to have "true and real" feelings for someoen over IM you gotta remember not to get too caught up in it, for all you know the person at the other end could be some 40 year old pedo freak.....

Yeah...maybe its just me but that sounds a little paranoid.

Altho its (IMHO) possible to have "true and real" feelings for someoen over IM you gotta remember not to get too caught up in it, for all you know the person at the other end could be some 40 year old pedo freak.....

but then it would be like talking to someone but always having a sense of hesitation and withdrawal.........rather than don't get caught up in it, don't talk on IM if you don't trust that person. When u decide to talk to someone through IM u should be true to them and yourself otherwise it would be meaningless. HOWEVER! i'm not saying that you should expose all your details to them straight away..........

Doesn't anyone value that sense of secrecy? i don't feel the need to ask them straight away for a photo............coz i think it's more interesting not knowing................for a while.........

Yeah, I know what you mean but still. Ive met friends online, people Ive grown to be good friends with but Ive also had friends who make an account and pretend to be someone in order to see someone elses reaction (now this was just fun amongst friends, but my point is lying over IM isnt exactly hard) be honest (to a certain extent) but dont get too caught up in that person just incase.

Call me old fashioned, but I believe that you cannot.

It's kind of hard to explain why I feel this way, but I'll try.

You have to be within their presense in order to actually feel for them. The internet is just like a newspaper: You see births, marrages, and deaths; but do you really care for those people? I suppose you could feel some emotions towards a person that you are close to online, just like you do a penpal (you know... The old fashion way people used to get in contact with foreigners), but you have to meet them in person.

Call me old fashioned, but I believe that you cannot.

It's kind of hard to explain why I feel this way, but I'll try.

You have to be within their presense in order to actually feel for them. The internet is just like a newspaper: You see births, marrages, and deaths; but do you really care for those people? I suppose you could feel some emotions towards a person that you are close to online, just like you do a penpal (you know... The old fashion way people used to get in contact with foreigners), but you have to meet them in person.

Do you actually think Spoon and I never meet up or something? :eyebrow:

Just the internet is not sufficient. No way it is. Not to maintain a relationship anyway.

Right now, I'm in a relationship with a girl i met over the internet.

But we're meeting up like..in a couple of days.
So it's entirely possible to have feelings for someone you never met.
I mean, i pretty much know I have feelings for her even though we haven't met in person yet.
I mean, we talk all the time over the phone and internet, and I already like her a lot based on her personality itself.

So uhm.
yeah.
It's possible to have feelings for someone you never met, but you eventually have to meet them in person...

yeah...i think you can, i suppose luh.
and @ ^, have fun XD

I think it's more dangerous for girls.
I once thought that Zero was being too nice so I called him a rapist and temporarly blocked him XD
he was like -____- wtf?
XD

poor Zero, it is kinda more dangerous for girls...but something freaky can happen to all of us.

actually unless it's a very large woman vs a very small and frail man, the dudes usually can't get hurt UNLESS there are freaky old guy out there, but young guys could totally kick old dude butt no?

yeah but a knife to yer ribs...or chloroform,a black van and waking up tied to a chair... that can happen to anyone, especialy if you're expecting a 16 year old girl and some 30 year old guy grabs ya from behind.

there was a girl on Maury who online dated when she was 9 and got prego at 10 lol that was the only episode of Maury I was too disturbed...

dude..thats gross.

indeed, I can't believe that happened:huh:

hmm....online dating at 9? At 9 I thought about cartoons and pokemon cards not dating...and getting laid at 10 is just wrong.

u''ll be amazed at what the young ones get up to nowadays..............

*shakes head* tut tut tut

No. Simple as that. :P

No. Simple as that. :P

I disagree, sir. :mellow:

Well, I am not like you-or do I think as yourself. kthxbai.

Instead of making a snappy come back, you could explain why you think the way you do about the topic at hand. :mellow:

Meer, do what you preach! You could have at least made refrence to one of the other members if it's already been said yeah? Well, I agree with you because if you've met them online you're thoughts have collided so mentally/spiritually you have already met.

@M: You don't think that your sn is an extension of yourself? I do, it's like this different world that you can only exist in by net access. If you read someones diary I'm sure you could make formal judgement and by judgement you implement feelings, no? ya but you should go see them... somethings not right about not doing it.

Well, I met my girlfriend over the internet so I'll say it is possible. Still, there are a lot of risk attached to it, the internet is full of perverted bastards after all.

If she wants to date that guy, I personally don't see a problem. If she's ever going to meet up with him, have her to make sure he comes to her town (assuming they live in different places) so that she knows her way around very well, and make sure such a meetup takes place in a crowded place and her friends are closeby. That should kind of make it all a bit better I suppose :mellow:

beware of child abduction x_x

..well I think it's very possible to fall in love like that. All you have to do is be very careful. My sis met her real-life hubby online so it CAN work out. And truly, if you're going to meet the person, meet up at a public place with at least a group of friends or something...(liiike..IDK meet up with a bunch of ppl from this forum at an anime con...). Well, whoever's going through this, the greatest of luck to you (that counts me in too :heh: )

that kinda situation is getting more common these days, so yea. and like a lot of other ppl said, make sure that you bring friends with you, especially guy friends (i dont think you'd wanna bring a girl), and that you meet in a public place at a time when thers people around

'Course it's possible. I having feelings of resesntment for a lot of people here.

umm thanks?XD

Well, if you believe in love at first sight? I knew my boyfriend when I was six, didn't see him for seven years, then fell for him first time I saw him again. This is why I believe it's possible. The world...is on meth.

so thats why it spins?

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